Elizabeth Eternal

So, for those of you that have spent… well really any time talking to me over the last six months, everything in this particular post will be very familiar. The desire to evolve and the different facets of that train of thought have been something I have been mulling over and lets just be very honest…. obsessing over, for quite a while. Because for me, thinking this way made life sort of snap into focus. It allowed me to let go of hurt, and attachment to outcomes, and even jealousy.

Yeah, it sort of flipped the world inside my head upside down and I love that just a little bit.

I happen to really like being challenged.

But I digress.

I have worked very hard to allow myself to evolve, to change, and to embrace life fully. And in that, has come so much joy, so much pain, so much loss, and even more freedom. All of it in the best kind of way. For me, this path has cleared out all the extra, and left me with the things I actually want, and the things that make life so fucking beautiful.

The Desire to Evolve is an Innate Desire

Let’s talk about that word really quick. Innate. I see it get tossed around a lot and I sort of wonder if people really understand. In order for something to be innate, it must be something we automatically know, and our minds or body’s do without prompting when a certain stimulus is present. Such as breathing, sucking motions, crying when upset, laughing when tickled, seeking comfort, and learning. These are things that we come into the world knowing how to do. We often don’t think about things like empathy or self-control in this list but that is indeed innate to us as well, however, it is something that requires the development of certain parts of the brain that are not developed until later on. Also requires a subconscious which is not present in early childhood.

I got off topic there though to be honest.

I could take it out, but I thought it was fascinating information so… There it is.

Something you may have noticed in that little mess of information, is that the things that are innate to us, are needed for our survival.

So, when I say that the desire to evolve is innate, it stands to reason that it is required for our survival. And yet, we as a society seem to think the only way we can truly evolve after a certain point is within a career we picked when we were children.

We get married, and we have pretty babies, and we start life and then, that is it. Thats what we do. That is our life. And we allow ourselves to get stuck in one way of thinking and one way of doing things, with very little room to evolve.

We have a mental health crisis in this country and in many others. And while I will say this is not the reason for it, it certainly is not helping us get out of it either. Because there is an essential part of our survival that we all seem to think is not necessary after the surpassing of an arbitrary age. We tell people they need to ‘grow up’. Which I agree with whole heartily. Until I realized it really meant, becoming a boring old women.

*grumble grumble*

The Shackles of Society are Very Real.

Did you know the majority of the things we find to be ‘right’ within our society are stemmed from the Christian faith? And the majority of those things were formed from a group of extremists that fled the English rule because their ideals were to loose? Haha yeah, we didn’t learn that in hi school history, but… look it up. It’s actually quite interesting. Disgusting really, but interesting.

That does mean that our country was founded on principles laid out by a group of individuals that thought CATHOLIC law was just to fucking sinful. They laid out rules on the way men and women should conduct themselves in every single aspect of their life’s, and these ideals have been passed down over many generations in full fucking force.

Did you know that in most pre colonization cultures, things like polyamory, harams, and varies forms of polygamy were practiced very successfully? They created strong, unbreakable families that felt right and worked for them without this astringent desire for monogamy? Monogamy happened 100%. But it wasn’t the only thing.

Did you know that before the outreach efforts of the bible following cult, things like weed and shrooms were a normal thing to find in any and all households? They were even used in varies rituals and get togethers. Alcohol was consumed on the regular in nearly every home, and these things were only really frowned upon if they became a hazard to your family.

Did you know that sex had always been viewed as a powerful exchange of energy? Not something that was encouraged to only happen with one person. And the origins of what we would now call whores, were actually powerful women that were desired by many because of their ability to bolster confidence and satiate a level of energy within another being?

And then religion got involved.

And everything got really mother fucking boring.

Just saying.

True Freedom,

True freedom is attained through your ability to be open minded. To allow yourself to evolve and change and think differently. When I talk about this a lot of people say this would be used as a good excuse to leave a lifelong partner or abandon your children. Because you have evolved passed it, right?

Haha well….

No.

But also yes.

Do not abandon your children though. I am not saying that even a fucking little.

If you do, you will forever be viewed by me as a piece of shit human.

I’m not sorry.

And if you are in a long term commitment with another being, that shit means something. Your word means something. But a good lifelong partner should encourage the continued evolvement of you as a human. I find the statement “You’ve changed” Or “Your not who I married” to be really confusing.

Like no… They are not the same person they were five years ago darling. That is what is supposed to happen!

But when that happens together… not in the same way… but together, there should be excitement of those things. Not just with your romantic partners but your friends to. This idea that everyone just needs to figure out who they are and stay that way forever, is insane!

What if you attend a pottery class, because it’s fun, and you wanted to learn a new skill, and turns out you fucking love it, and decide to do a little switcharoony in careers? Or attend a birth and realize you want to be a doula because it was a fulfilling and beautiful thing? Or you went to the bar and had seen the most amazing cocktail being made and decided that drinks are your new hobby?

What happens if you encounter a very difficult person, and you learn to be a lot calmer and patient in a hard situation? Or your partner goes through a really hard mental break, and you need to learn how to take care of someone and learn diligence and true unconditional love? Or you have a child, and it pulls on certain parts of your heart that changes you fundamentally.

What if you decide to go on an adventure and find out you fucking love deep sea diving, or sharks, or waterfalls, or cliff diving, or hunting, or guns, or photography, or a game, or whatever the fuck else?

Evolving is meant to be fun and full and free. Life is meant to be fun and full and free.

It doesn’t mean you bail on your husband or your wife on whim. It doesn’t mean you cannot still be a productive adult that gets shit done and takes care of your family in whatever capacity you are needed. Thats not it

Evolving requires that you say yes to life.

Say yes to the random hook up.

Say yes to the bonfires, and game night and the second drink.

Say yes to the trip, or the hike, or the vineyard.

Say yes to the weed, and the shrooms and the alcohol.

Say yes to the random ass thing the weird friend in the group said we should try.

Laugh.

Cry.

Experience.

Love.

Hate.

Enjoy.

Hustle.

Take a chance.

Live.

This desire to evolve and grow is innate to you. It’s completely possible this is something you will have to relearn now. Something can only be suppressed for so long before it jumps ship. But it is essential to your survival. Let’s be honest, what fights off depression and anxiety better then true joy and life?

Look, if you are perfectly happy following the beaten path and letting life happen to you, then you do that. Truly. No judgment. But I would like to challenge that a little. Challenge you to think about the things that you believe, and the way you conduct yourself and ask yourself, are you living the best life you can right now? Are you the fullest and most satiated version of you? If not, don’t you want that?

just a thought.

But what do I know? I am just a women, trying to fucking make it.