I think this is going to make a very specific type of person really uncomfortable if I am honest. Any time that I talk about this, whether on social media,. or in my everyday life, I get one of two responses.
- They look at me like I am crazy, and do not understand real life. Which…. fair, I don’t know your perception of life, and truthfully, if you feel this way about pleasure, then I genuinely don’t want to.
- The eyes are opened, and they jump in full swing, no backing down. And I honestly love these moments in time, and this ripple effect that it is has. There is something so delicious about seeing someone fall in love with their life.
There really isn’t any in between, which I find to be interesting. Most of the time, people are on a spectrum. Not just with things I say, but in general. But with this, that doesnt seem to be the case.
So lets see!
The problem
*YAAAAWWWNNNNNN* Life is fuck boring!!!
I’m sorry, but not sorry; Life set up in the American way, for most people, is boring as shit. You get up and get ready to go to work. Then you go to work. And then you work. And then you come home and maybe kick back with some people. Maybe you hang out with your family. Eat dinner. Go to bed, so you can get enough sleep to go do it again. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!! I am supposed to be excited about that.
No, that is Upsetti Speggetti. That is a depression hole. That is… My worst fucking nightmare. I’m not gonna lie.
And not because my life doesn’t look like that at its core. Because really it does… without all the extra. I have a scheduled, driven, pretty intense life.
I tottaly get it.
But let’s face it, when we allow that to be the narrative of our life, it’s not exactly awesome. And let’s be so honest: the mental health crisis we have going on in America is outrageous! Because life is hard, boring, and just downright blah. There is no spark, no joy, nothing that really makes our heart sing.
And should we go into the fuckery of clinging to a romantic partner so hard because they are the only thing that brings real joy? That’s a really good way to have the relationship crumble in the worst way possible. Lets not do that.
Okay?
Cool.
Romantize Baby!
We live in a world where this is the norm. And you can absolutely manifest the life that you want. But so many people don’t realize they are blocking their manifestations, because the energy you need to be in to make yourself energetically aligned with the thing, is not…. bordem.
We are doing energy work around these manifestations. And sometimes we really need to heal our relationship with our current life to get there. I know I know, seems counterintuitive. But what you allow you attract.
You don’t have a really annoying thirty-minute commute to work. You have thirty minutes twice a day to enjoy the scenery, listen to the best music, or catch up on some podcasts. You have thirty minutes to sing too loud, laugh too much, or simply be in silence to rebalance things. Fuck, you may even have thirty minutes to call your girlfriend/boyfriend, or your mom or something. You have thirty minutes twice a day that are all yours.
You do not have to eat better. You are making delicous, fullfilling food that is nourishing to your body, with all the prettiest colors, and clever food combinations that hit so perfectly.
You don’t have to take a shower. You get to reset, refresh, and cleanse the body of old energy. For all my lovely ladies out there, you have a solid twenty minutes to tap into the divine feminine and let the energy penetrate every part of your energy. And for you men, same, but the divine masculine.
Do you see the difference there?
Fall in love with your life.
Fall in love with the simplest things.
And watch yourself bring in the thing you are manifesting. Because you are becoming that version of yourself…. the universe has no choice but to bend to your will baby.
Let it all come from a place of pleasure.
Just a thought.
My pleasure.
Look baby. Just lean in a little closer. Don’t worry I got you.
My pleasure-centered morning routine? Oh, let me tell you. For a long time, I had a list of everything I had to do to have the most successful day—a list made by men by the way. And I just… I am not a man. It was hard and low-key exhausting. Maybe that morning routine will be good for men. I don’t know, but here is how I transformed my morning into something that brings me pleasure and sets the tone for the day, deeply in my feminine.
I did this even when I had littles in my house, I just got up a bit earlier.
So when my alarm goes off, I lay on my back and stretch my body out while I hum softly. Triggering the vagus nerve and bringing my attention back to my body. I practice so much gratitude here and check in with my body. Figuring out what it needs and how I should approach certain parts of my day. Then, I take some time to get myself off. Here’s the deal, I am not doing anything crazy with my pussy at this time. FUCK that. No, this is literally a vibrator on my clit, while drawing my attention to that creative energy housed in the reproductive organs. Obviously, this is a really pleasurable and present moment.
When I am finished there, I get up and open the blinds in my room, letting in the light, go to the bathroom, grab a joint, and get dressed. Then I go for my morning walk, while I smoke. This is usually at least two miles. I like to take my pup with me, and just enjoy the world around me. Talk to the cute old lady who is always sitting on her porch. When It was warmer, I always liked to grab flowers from the guy on the corner, who just put them out on a cart with a donation jar. Whatever feels good here, I do. My littles loved going on the morning walk.
Then, I make a pot of coffee, Journal (Just morning wake up stuff, writing down dreams, Setting my goals for the day, things I need to accomplish. So much graditude.) And then I shower.
My shower routine is a little insane. I like to dim all the lights, and turn on music that really invites the feminine in, or a guided meditation for the same thing. Whatever feels good. But my showers are ALWAYS rituals. Washing away any stagnant energy, and inviting in whatever I would like to hang out in that day. This is a really delicous time. That I absolutely love.
When I am finished, I get dressed and then turn on a podcast (Usually on Spirituality, business, or personal growth), I do my makeup and try to make my hair look somewhat done… It’s always a mess, but I have learned to embrace it. I take my time with my makeup ngl. I look at my face as a work of art, noticing each thing I have to do, and generally doing some glamour magic here. But the podcast is always still going when I am done, so it’s the perfect opportunity to finish it up while I look at my calendar and figure out what I need to do with my day. Making a plan based on my morning check-in with my body, the energy I cultivated in the shower, and the journaling I had done earlier on. While also jotting down some notes about the podcast if needed.
I know it sounds like a lot. But for me, it is so simple, it hits all the things I need it to, and I can flow so easily through it that it really does feel like complete flow and connection with source.
Because that is the goal, pleasure, everything you need to accomplish, and connection with source, this is going to look so different for everyone! DM me if you wanna work on your routines with me! We can totally talk about a plan for that.
