I think this is going to make a very specific type of person really uncomfortable if I am honest. Any time that I talk about this, whether on social media,. or in my everyday life, I get one of two responses.

1. They look at me like I am crazy, and do not understand real life. Which…. fair, I don’t know your perception of life, and truthfully, if you feel this way about pleasure, then I genuinely don’t want to.
2. The eyes are opened, and they jump in full swing, no backing down. And I honestly love these moments in time, and this ripple effect that it is has. There is something so delicious about seeing someone fall in love with their life.

There really isn’t any in between, which I find to be interesting. Most of the time, people are on a spectrum. Not just with things I say, but in general. But with this, that doesnt seem to be the case.

So lets see!

The problem

*YAAAAWWWNNNNNN* Life is fuck boring!!!

I’m sorry, but not sorry; Life set up in the American way, for most people, is boring as shit. You get up and get ready to go to work. Then you go to work. And then you work. And then you come home and maybe kick back with some people. Maybe you hang out with your family. Eat dinner. Go to bed, so you can get enough sleep to go do it again. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!! I am supposed to be excited about that.

No, that is Upsetti Speggetti. That is a depression hole. That is… My worst fucking nightmare. I’m not gonna lie.

And not because my life doesn’t look like that at its core. Because really it does… without all the extra. I have a scheduled, driven, pretty intense life.

I tottaly get it.

But let’s face it, when we allow that to be the narrative of our life, it’s not exactly awesome. And let’s be so honest: the mental health crisis we have going on in America is outrageous! Because life is hard, boring, and just downright blah. There is no spark, no joy, nothing that really makes our heart sing.

And should we go into the fuckery of clinging to a romantic partner so hard because they are the only thing that brings real joy? That’s a really good way to have the relationship crumble in the worst way possible. Lets not do that.

Okay?

Cool.

Romantize Baby!

We live in a world where this is the norm. And you can absolutely manifest the life that you want. But so many people don’t realize they are blocking their manifestations, because the energy you need to be in to make yourself energetically aligned with the thing, is not…. bordem.

We are doing energy work around these manifestations. And sometimes we really need to heal our relationship with our current life to get there. I know I know, seems counterintuitive. But what you allow you attract.

You don’t have a really annoying thirty-minute commute to work. You have thirty minutes twice a day to enjoy the scenery, listen to the best music, or catch up on some podcasts. You have thirty minutes to sing too loud, laugh too much, or simply be in silence to rebalance things. Fuck, you may even have thirty minutes to call your girlfriend/boyfriend, or your mom or something. You have thirty minutes twice a day that are all yours.

You do not have to eat better. You are making delicous, fullfilling food that is nourishing to your body, with all the prettiest colors, and clever food combinations that hit so perfectly.

You don’t have to take a shower. You get to reset, refresh, and cleanse the body of old energy. For all my lovely ladies out there, you have a solid twenty minutes to tap into the divine feminine and let the energy penetrate every part of your energy. And for you men, same, but the divine masculine.

Do you see the difference there?

Fall in love with your life.

Fall in love with the simplest things.

And watch yourself bring in the thing you are manifesting. Because you are becoming that version of yourself…. the universe has no choice but to bend to your will baby.

Let it all come from a place of pleasure.

Just a thought.

My pleasure.

Look baby. Just lean in a little closer. Don’t worry I got you.

My pleasure-centered morning routine? Oh, let me tell you. For a long time, I had a list of everything I had to do to have the most successful day—a list made by men by the way. And I just… I am not a man. It was hard and low-key exhausting. Maybe that morning routine will be good for men. I don’t know, but here is how I transformed my morning into something that brings me pleasure and sets the tone for the day, deeply in my feminine.

I did this even when I had littles in my house, I just got up a bit earlier.

So when my alarm goes off, I lay on my back and stretch my body out while I hum softly. Triggering the vagus nerve and bringing my attention back to my body. I practice so much gratitude here and check in with my body. Figuring out what it needs and how I should approach certain parts of my day. Then, I take some time to get myself off. Here’s the deal, I am not doing anything crazy with my pussy at this time. FUCK that. No, this is literally a vibrator on my clit, while drawing my attention to that creative energy housed in the reproductive organs. Obviously, this is a really pleasurable and present moment.

When I am finished there, I get up and open the blinds in my room, letting in the light, go to the bathroom, grab a joint, and get dressed. Then I go for my morning walk, while I smoke. This is usually at least two miles. I like to take my pup with me, and just enjoy the world around me. Talk to the cute old lady who is always sitting on her porch. When It was warmer, I always liked to grab flowers from the guy on the corner, who just put them out on a cart with a donation jar. Whatever feels good here, I do. My littles loved going on the morning walk.

Then, I make a pot of coffee, Journal (Just morning wake up stuff, writing down dreams, Setting my goals for the day, things I need to accomplish. So much graditude.) And then I shower.

My shower routine is a little insane. I like to dim all the lights, and turn on music that really invites the feminine in, or a guided meditation for the same thing. Whatever feels good. But my showers are ALWAYS rituals. Washing away any stagnant energy, and inviting in whatever I would like to hang out in that day. This is a really delicous time. That I absolutely love.

When I am finished, I get dressed and then turn on a podcast (Usually on Spirituality, business, or personal growth), I do my makeup and try to make my hair look somewhat done… It’s always a mess, but I have learned to embrace it. I take my time with my makeup ngl. I look at my face as a work of art, noticing each thing I have to do, and generally doing some glamour magic here. But the podcast is always still going when I am done, so it’s the perfect opportunity to finish it up while I look at my calendar and figure out what I need to do with my day. Making a plan based on my morning check-in with my body, the energy I cultivated in the shower, and the journaling I had done earlier on. While also jotting down some notes about the podcast if needed.

I know it sounds like a lot. But for me, it is so simple, it hits all the things I need it to, and I can flow so easily through it that it really does feel like complete flow and connection with source.

Because that is the goal, pleasure, everything you need to accomplish, and connection with source, this is going to look so different for everyone! DM me if you wanna work on your routines with me! We can totally talk about a plan for that.

The action of evolving is Surrender. Surrender is open-mindedness. And life is for the living. 

I said what I said. 

 I know that makes people nervous, and childhood trauma leads us to this intense desire to have complete control over as much in our lives as humanly possible. The thing is, I am not discrediting that kind of life in the slightest. If that is truly what your heart needs and wants and you are perfectly satiated in that life, then you fucking go for it. There is no judgment here. Truly. 

The people that I am talking to today, are the dreamers, the growers, the ones that look at this life as a delicious opportunity to experience as much as they can in this lifetime. 

Check out https://elizabetheternal.com/the-fundamentals-of-fear/

As for my evolution

Since I have embarked on my healing journey, one of the most prevalent things I have learned is that I am an ever-evolving human. I am learning to fully embrace the action of evolving. What I have and want now, is not necessarily what I will want and need in the future. That is completely okay. There is nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean I was wrong then, or I am losing my mind now. I evolved. That is a beautiful thing. 

I would rather have had six different careers, and been stupidly, and incandescently happy the entire time than receive the accolade of forty years in one career. Have lived in twenty different cities and met thousands of people; giving my children and family an amazing adventure – than have bought just one house in a small town in a good school district, just because it was expected of me. There is something delicious about having experiences with as many people as feels right for me, rather then to have only been with one man because the church or society says that it would make me a purer woman.

The list goes on. 

Fluidity

I crave fluidity and surrender more now than ever before in my life.. I happen to really love my life. If I ever wanted anything different, I do have rules for myself, guidelines that I must follow. Like, it would need to be moving me further in life, not backward. It would need to not bring harm to my family. Things like that. 

But I would think about it. Spend time with it. Possibly even do it. Even if it was scary. 

That does not mean that I want to be blown with the wind every time it moves. I don’t want to be flighty and dip on everyone the second my mind starts to wander. It’s not that. 

It’s a willingness to be open to life. And whatever it may throw at me. 

I’m cool with it. I have found freedom in it. And I have no intention of chaining myself to just one thing. 

A lot of that is because I have surrendered, I do know what I want. And I am not afraid of my wants and desires. I embrace them fully. 

Surrendering to the ever-evolving self. 

Fuck I hate that word just a little bit. Surrender. Okay, a lot a bit. 

Because in the church it was always used to say, “Your life is what it is and if you are content enough, God will make you feel better about it.” That was always the expectation for me. 

FUCK THAT. 

For real. 

With a spikey fucking dildo. 

I am not doing that. Not ever. 

But, leaving that little idea of surrender aside, let’s dive into what that means in this context. 

Often, when we haven’t told ourselves the whole story and gained polarity of the things that have plagued us, we do this thing. become extremely hardened towards things that are perceived as ‘unsafe’. Ultimately it means our brains are doing the fucking job all the way. We really do have animal-like brains, once something is categorized as unsafe, that is it. We naturally start to gravitate away from anything that even slightly triggers that injured part of the mind. Then we form a comfortable life around what feels a little more comfortable. 

The healed and surrender

None of this is done consciously. It’s the subconscious part of the mind. It is the part of our mind that was developed when we were just little tiny humans and didn’t have the skills and ability to navigate hard things. Before we truly understood what these things meant. Usually before the age of seven, but as young as birth. Which by the way, is just really fucking annoying. But I digress. 

This is where people get tripped up with healing. They find that they can be free from some of the consequences of that trauma, but when the uncomfortable feeling of stepping outside of the safe little box that was created, it is assumed that it is intuition saying no. 

HAHA not exactly. 

This is the next step in the action of evolving. 

Surrender is getting comfortable being uncomfortable for a while. It is asking yourself what is underneath the uncomfortable feeling. When you surrender it is saying that you are willing to sit with the things of this life and be willing to step outside of what is comfortable. Ask yourself what is real to you outside of the trauma you have faced. And that is really scary. Surrender is the action of evolving. Moving forward, living life in freedom. 

True Open-mindedness is the path to Evolve.

True open-mindedness is your ability to be able hold multiple realities in you at one time. The one you are living. The feeling that you are getting – that the thing is scary and doesn’t feel right. But also, the reality that it is a fun thing and could help you learn and grow. And deciding which one is true to you in a real way. Not in a way that lives in comfort and refuses to shake the boat. 

What we seem to forget, I have already stated. We have animal-like brains. Though I think most of us would understand the analogy of computer-like brains a little better. This trauma creates a pathway in the brain, or installed software, that physically changes the brain to alleviate the threat and create coping skills just in case it happens again. You can heal all you fucking want, the pathway is there until you decide that you are going to change the pathway. I say that like it’s so easy, but in reality, this is very difficult. 

It requires you to sit with things. Ponder them, try new things, open yourself up to perceived vulnerability, and live consistently with the understanding that you could absolutely get hurt again. 

However, on the other side of all that healing and all that polarity and all that work, is freedom. It is a life well lived and a life you can be stupidly in love with. It is fluid and delicious and allows you the ability to continue to evolve. The action of evolving is surrender.

I will never tell a masculine what to do.

And oh how people are going to be so so so mad at me about this. I know. I can feel it. The tensions rising already with just that one little statement.

But it’s true.

I mean you can try. But take a moment all my lovely fems out there reading this. The last time you had a fight with your masc, what was it about? I am going to take a really good educated guess here, and say there is a good chance that the masc had made a decision about something, you didn’t love it and told him to do something else, and…. one thing led to another. Or, you told them “Hey you are going to do this” And that was not very well received.

Im going to wager a bet that a lot of smaller arguments between the masc and the fem start this way. It’s unfortunate because, it can be so easily avoided by the feminine leaning into her power. So, I am going to chit chat about this just a little. And the crazy thing is, the argument ends up being about something completely different. Because, the energy is out of alignment and the brain needs something to fix, so it creates it.

Keep an open mind, okay?

You’re going to need it.

I get it, you my little love are absolutely just as much in charge of this relationship as the masculine. There is no lesser, or greater in the dynamic. The only reason we see it this way, is that as a society, we only like to praise the masculine traits as being good, and the feminine as being subservient. This is a massive oversight of this energy.

The Structure is VITALLY important, but so is the temperature. This is a vital piece of the equation. They are both needed consistently.

When a man, any man, tells me “This is what I am going to do” And I don’t like it, my first reaction is to tell them no, and demand they do it differently. The problem with that, is the masculine is the structure. This is where his energy and his power live. This is where he is the most satiated and happy and where they are the most vital. The masculine does not need more structure, they need temperature.

So when the feminine challenges that, it’s problematic in their heads. It’s not a conscious thought, It is an energetic action. Because it brings into question their ability to take care of the things they love. It raises a bright burning target in there head and can flip a switch really easy to allow for defensiveness. The feminine will never get more enraged then when they feel they are not being heard.

And the battle of wills ensues.

This does not mean that I will be keeping my opinion to myself. It is that, I will be approaching things very different. I have a voice, but meeting the masculine with an outright demand is going to put them at odds with what you are saying. Their defenses are going to immediately pop up.

“Can I ask why this is not a bit more emergent?”

Or

“Can I get some more clarity on why we are not doing it this way? I will hear you, I just want to understand”

Something like that.

If they are a healthy masc, they will listen. If they are not…. girl what the fuck are you doing? Bounce. You are of high value, if you’re not being listened to, the cover charge is not being met. End of story.

If they continue down the same path, be vulnerable! Not manipulative, just honest. “This is making me a bit uncomfortable because.”

“doing things this way is making it really hard for me because…..”

“My anxiety is through the roof on this because”

This causes healthy discussion! We LOVE a good healthy discussion.

And ultimately they are going to do there thing. Ultimately the structure is going to be the structure. My energy can then be spent loving him anyway, bringing a sense of calm and coming along side them. Be the peace, and the driving force. Because then, if it does not work out, WE ARE STILL A TEAM. There is no I told you so’s or hurt feelings or pain. This is the time to realize that your power as the feminine, is to bring the right energy so that your family or your friendship, or your whatever the relationship may be, has the ability to stay intact. The masc cannot do that. They are the structure not the temperature. There power lives in there ability to create structure. Emotionally, spiritually, physically, etc. The feminine power lives in the temperature, emotionally, spiritually, physically, etc.

And any man can be seduced… into anything. There is always a back up plan.

But really. This is not saying that you need to just roll over and let your masc do whatever they want. They are not your over-ruler, they are your person. They are not your boss, they are your structure. If you need to go to bat over something, and it requires you to tell them what to do, then girl do your thing. But remember where your power lives. You set the temperature. You have the ability to change the dynamic at the drop of a hat.

It’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when.

Now in order for this dynamic to work, you do indeed need to be a high value woman. There is so much information out there on this topic. However, it says there is only one way to be this way, and that is just not the truth. Being of high value means achieving the life you want. Putting in the work and effort to be the kind of woman that you want to be. https://amzn.to/4cGp6gU This book is such a yummy place to start with cultivating this energy

The reason I say this, is because the masculine responds well to people and specifically feminines that know their own mind and have a basis to talk about things. I don’t make the rules, I’m just talking about them.

That’s my two cents anyway.

The feminine energy is emotional and we fucking love that about the feminine.

Or at least we should.

Let me explain. And if your looking for sort of the basics on the feminine energy, you can find that here – https://elizabetheternal.com/the-feminine-energy/ and – https://elizabetheternal.com/the-feminine-energy-part-two/

Part of the feminine energy, is the ability to see to the heart of things really quickly. The feminine is made to receive, to take things in and multiply it and give it back. We like to look at this only within the scope of child rearing. And while that is true, it does make it easier to raise a child when you can see straight to the heart of them, and understand what it is that they need to be able to overcome any obstacle, this applies to every area of life.

When a feminine falls in love, at least a healthy feminine that isn’t carrying around a bunch of baggage…. they fall in love with what is at the core of that person. The red flags we are always so ready to ignore? Yeah, that is because the energy sees it as the extra of life. Placing it on the same level of importance as what job they have or what car they drive or their favorite place to eat. It matters, but really not that much. Because it’s what is underneath that, what is true to the nature of a person, that matters the most.

So when that relationship ends, it is a grieving process. It is understanding that when that other person finally saw to the core of who we are, they finally waded through all the extra, they didn’t like what they saw. Or they never saw it at all, and we realized that our love for that person was far deeper then there love for us.

THIS IS EMOTIONAL. This is hard, and jarring, and makes us question our selves deeply. Remember, the feminine energy is emotional, and we love that about them!

The masculine is affected probably the same amount, but on a far less emotional side of it.

The masculine brings structure to the temperature. Because of this the way they approach pretty much everything is different. They see their family and the first thought is “I need to provide” Right? They think, “My family needs a good life so I need to make money.” and “They need my love and affection, so I am going to provide that” Its seeing the family from an external point of view, and diving in. Where as the feminine starts on the inside, and works its way out.

Does this make sense?

So they are less emotional, because they were just barley scratching the surface of knowing that person to there core. Once a masc falls in love with the true essence of the partner…. they cannot be swayed. Hence the masculine tendency towards obsession. But the heart break is more… not trusting themselves, than a deep grieving. They still grieve, but it’s on much different level.

The feminine sees someone getting hurt, and they automatically see to the heart of it, the core. “Oh my gosh, that feeling must be fucking horrible”

The masculine sees someone getting hurt and they see the threat, and how that needs to be eliminated “How could they possibly hurt someone like that”

See the difference there?

We need BOTH OF THESE energies to effectively help a situation. They are both so vital. And yet, the immediate response to the feminine energy is “Why are you being so emotional”

If I could add a gif in here of someone rolling their eyes, I so would. The blatant lack of respect for the feminine is so deeply ingrained in us, that we see what makes there energy so powerful, as being silly, and immature, and like a nuisance rather then being the strong and powerful thing it really is.

Name a masc that can hold that much emotion in there body and not fucking loose there shit.

I’ll wait.

We fucking love this about the feminine. When we give them the space to be emotional, and work through that, they learn how to harness it and turn it into compassion, and love, and deep satiation for life. But because it is so regularly belittled, and they have to stuff it down, they are not able to ever mature into the Devine feminine creature they were made to be. So fuck all the way off with the judgment. And just let them be who they fucking are and who they were created to be. This energy is just the beginning of a lot bigger of a picture.

Im just saying. The feminine energy is emotional. And we fucking love that about them. That’s my two cents.

I recently read this book and I really wish that I would have found it when I first started my journey. It is simple and gives really every day life things you can do. It may be a helpful tool! – https://a.co/d/0dPYC1q

Masculine archetypes are symbolic representations of various aspects of the masculine psyche and collective unconscious. These archetypes provide a framework for understanding and exploring different facets of masculinity, spirituality, and personal growth.

When remembering the frame work we have already laid out concerning the core of the masculine energy, these archetypes make a lot more sense and makes one realize that they are all holding the same thing, just in very different ways. The masculine energy is the structure. They bring structure and resounding feeling of being at harmony when someone is walking in it fully. Let’s delve into a few descriptions of some prominent masculine archetypes:

If you haven’t read my first blog on this, I highly recommend it. https://elizabetheternal.com/the-masculine-energy/

And if you so feel the desire, as the next few posts will be about the feminine archetypes and the way these two energies depend on each other, you may want to check out my post on the feminine energy https://elizabetheternal.com/the-feminine-energy/

The king

The King archetype represents leadership, authority, and the ability to provide guidance and structure. He symbolizes the mature and responsible aspect of masculinity. The King archetype encourages us to take ownership of our lives, honor our responsibilities, and lead with integrity. He reminds us to cultivate a sense of purpose and create a positive impact in our communities and relationships.

This is often what we associate with true masculinity, in the way we view the mother or the maiden as the true feminine. In real human experience this is the guy that gets up at the same time every day and crushes every bit of there day. This is the guy that holds to many responsibility for the average person and he holds them as though they are nothing. This is the guy who works hard and plays much harder when the time is right to do so. However, only when the time is right, otherwise, they are entirely present and in control. a natural leader without the desire to be recognized as such. In fact I would wager a bet he does not even see it that way.

The Warrior

The Warrior archetype embodies strength, courage, and a fierce determination to protect and defend. He symbolizes the ability to face challenges, overcome adversity, and fight for what is right. The Warrior archetype encourages us to tap into our inner strength, stand up for our values, and protect those who are vulnerable. He reminds us to embrace discipline, resilience, and a strong sense of justice.

This archetype is easy to get confused with the King, but they are indeed very different. Though many hold these two archetypes interchangeably. Often time we refer to these men as possessive and over protective. It can easily become domineering and controlling if they don’t have a firm respect for the feminine energy. They are seen as being the protective entry of any group, usually on guard and keeping their wits about them is very important. Someone operating in this energy does not play as hard as the king. Nothing is worth being unable to control a situation if it is needed. This is another one of the archetypes that are the most closely associated in modern thought as masculine.

The Lover

The Lover archetype represents passion, sensuality, and emotional depth. He symbolizes the ability to connect deeply with others and experience profound love and intimacy. The Lover archetype encourages us to cultivate emotional intelligence, nurture intimate relationships, and embrace the beauty of life. He reminds us to seek pleasure, express love openly, and connect with our hearts.

What is amazing to me, is that when I see this archetype in real life, it is often associated with a more feminine man. Someone who has lost touch with what makes him a man. This could not be further from the truth. The idea of what is ‘manly’ is leftover bullshit from a time period in which our way of life was consistently compromised and the kings and warriors were well within their element. There is something to be said for quiet strength and fortitude. This is the guy who loves his girl so recklessly and fully that nothing else in his world seems to matter. He is the pillar of an involved father, who invests in the emotional well being of his children. Unsurprisingly so, this archetype is highly sought after by the feminine. It’s the source on many books, and movies, and other content that makes women swoon. And yet, looked down upon by other men. What a hard energy to operate in. But when done well, with amazing unbridled confidence, is really something amazing to behold.

The Sage

The Sage archetype embodies wisdom, knowledge, and the pursuit of truth. He symbolizes the intellectual and introspective aspect of masculinity. The Sage archetype encourages us to seek knowledge, expand our understanding of the world, and cultivate inner wisdom. He reminds us to embrace lifelong learning, engage in self-reflection, and share our wisdom with others.

What I find to be unbelievably amazing about this archetype, is that I have personally not seen his particular energy stand alone. It makes me wonder if the archetype is associated heavily with the hermit. Which for those of you who don’t know, is a card in the tarot deck; known for being a lonely wonderer. We see these archetypes in books all the time, and even in movies, and yet the real life Sage seems to be an illusive creature. I have seen in so clearly in people who have another archetype that they operate in far more. Those who have a ‘prophetic’ nature.

Maybe scholars and professors that gave themselves over to their craft entirely. I just have not personally come across someone who primarily operates in this. Though I would love to! The curious nature of me craves a good long conversation with them.

The Magician

The Magician archetype represents transformation, creativity, and the ability to manifest our desires. He symbolizes the power of the mind and the capacity to tap into unseen forces. The Magician archetype encourages us to harness our creative potential, cultivate our intuition, and shape our reality. He reminds us to embrace our ability to create positive change and manifest our dreams.

The Charismatic prophet. Must I say more? No, but I certainly will. Unchecked, this archetype seems to get lost in the spiritual realm easily. Looses touch with reality and the day to day happenings of a ‘normal’ person. Often times needing the feminine energy more than the other archetypes. It provides a sense of grounding and assurance. Yet they really are something to behold. They are the guy that always seems to know what you’re thinking before you do. The guy you can sit for hours with a talk about the most random of things, and he always seems to have some sort of deep insight on it, even if its a concept he has never fully thought about before. Its as if the creative nature of this man paints a picture in his head about every day mundane things, and often that comes out in some sort of them in the form of some sort of creative career.

So…

These descriptions provide a glimpse into the multifaceted nature of masculine archetypes. Each archetype encompasses a range of qualities and characteristics, and exploring them can deepen our understanding of ourselves, our relationships, and our spiritual growth. By embracing and integrating these archetypal energies, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and spiritual expansion.

You can operate heavily in one as your primary archetype, but also hold one or two others. Some embody a part of all of them. Because at the end of the day, the energy is exactly the same, the expression of that energy has just changed. Not the true underlying energy of the man or masculine energy carrying individual.

If you wanna dive a little deeper, there are some other place that this information is given with a bit more depth that are worth check out

I have been looking forward to the post with equal measures of excitement and dread. The feminine energy has been so drastically misrepresented in our culture that it’s not even funny anymore. Never really was. And unpacking the lies that have been so heavily believed while also maintaining the integrity of the energy is sure to be an interesting thing. But I believe myself to have a firm enough grasp on the concept that I am up for the challenge.

Hopefully.

Nah I am.

*Breath Elizabeth, it’s just a post*

Plus this is just the introduction to the concept, not the concept in its entirety so…. let’s go.

The feminine is really such a brilliant and powerful thing, with monuments of untapped potential and peace. I think that in general, as women we are taught (Not specifically, but through the influence of culture) what femininity is, but not how to actually hold it. On top of that, the version of feminine energy we are taught about, lives in one context, rather than being presented as a state of being.

Same disclaimer as the Masculine energy post, this is going to be a long one. I can feel it in my jelly’s. So bare with me okay. You can find the post on the masculine energy here The masculine energy – Elizabeth Eternal

The extra big problem lately is that we hella over corrected when trying to fix the imbalance. I can NOT do things the way a man can. I can do the job absolutely. I can be a boss babe, 100%. I can do all the things, and I do. But if I want to hold onto the Feminine that is really at the core of who I am as a person, I cannot do the job the way a man does it. It takes away from the power and beauty of myself as a feminine, and it degrades the masculine and its power to try.

The two are meant to work harmoniously together. Not side by side. Which! does not mean one is better than the other or has to be the dominate. No, they just bring two sides together.

So, what am I talking about.

The feminine energy has been so heavily misrepresented in our culture, it’s hard to even know where to start. Men and the masculine? They got this shit. It’s more like… a shift in perspective. But with femininity, its different.

Have you seen the new Barbie movie? When one of the main characters starts a monoluge of all the things that are expected of women? That shit is real. And there is so much expectation that no one really knows what to do with it, or how to tap into what is real and honest about themselves.

There was a huge portion of my life that I genuinely wished I was not born a woman. As do a lot of women who do not fit into the idea of the perfect wife and mother. I didn’t want to have to be meek and coy and pious. I wished I could be strong, and tenacious, and confident without the world telling me I was wrong for doing so. I so desperately wanted to be disconnected from this energy that was and is an intrinsic part of my being. Because who wants to be barefoot and pregnant and living for the benefit of everyone else around them? Not me.

I mean if that’s what you want, no judgment. I see you and its fucking beautiful. But the living for everyone else? I’m sorry but I am really not sorry… absomotherfuckinglutly not. Not for anyone. Ever. Because the Feminine was not meant to give, they were meant to receive, nurture, and give back. So, like yeah, I would love to be barefoot and pregnant, but…. for a season. Not for the whole fucking thing.

(Complete side note, but even our fucking anatomy screams please give it to me, I want to receive you. We literally have a hole that gets wet and wants to take something in. Okay, come on.)

So once again, just as I stated with the masculine energy, I want to make it clear from the beginning, that there is no one way to be a woman or to hold this energy. It is not qualifiable with a set of actions or words to encompass the fullness of it. It is the energy behind actions. Not the actions themselves.

It does not belong soley to women, or a certain kind of women.

If a man holds feminine energy, fucking let him! Just like if a woman holds masculine energy, fucking let her. I know men who hold a lot more of this delicious energy then a lot of women I know. And there is nothing shameful or wrong about that. That is just who they are. We don’t shame or judge here.

Please remember EVERYTHING you judge you are secretly jealous of. So maybe work on yourself. Okay?

Cool?

Cool.

What I want to talk about is the energy behind actions. The energy that fuels the way we look at the world, and the way that translates to actions. So, I am going to talk about child rearing, and partnerships and all that yummy kind of thing, but keep in mind, those things are NOT necessary to holding the feminine.

And in a later post I will talk about the difference between the dark fam and the soft fem. But… we already have so much going on in this post that it would make it too much. So, keep an eye out.

This one is long.

So, what is the Feminine Energy?

If the masculine is the structure, the Feminine is the temperature. Everything about the feminine energy was made to receive and nurture. Not to give. Almost never to give actually. Which was a really hard thing for me to make peace with if I am honest. I wrestled with it for a hot second. I know a lot of fems out there are going to be taken off guard. But I am guessing most masculine’s are going to be deeply settled by that ideal when explained further. Because they are the structure. They feel the most content and themselves when they get to take care of their fem and their family. It makes them feel powerful. And it should! That is a huge weight to bare, and they do it so naturally and wonderfully, that its very… well its a turn on. Period

The feminine is going to look at her family, as an extension of herself. Because the energy behind it is to receive and nurture. So, the partner, and the kids, and the house, the career, they are all a part of her. They are an extension of what is important to her and will be seen as a personal attribute. Remember when we talked about the singular mindset the masculine energy has? The feminine does not do that inherently. We can! Just like any other skill, it is attainable. But it is not innate, and it is not the way the feminine works best or is the most satiating.

So, when the feminine energy approaches a need, or a problem, it is looking for the core of it. She is looking to repair the temperature or the vibe, because it is what her energy naturally does. You know when dad is like “Why is this kid having such an attitude?” And he’s frustrated by it. But then mom looks at it and says “Oh they are feeling left out” and then she swoops and saves the day?

Yeah.

There is a reason for that.

The innate desire to create temperature within her home requires her to be able to see to the heart of an issue and redirect the energy. It’s an extension of her so if any of it is off balance, she is off balance. It’s really such a powerful thing. They set the tone, and the atmosphere. The masculine can try, but it will be exhausting for them. It will take the life right out of them if they do it for too long, because it is not what their energy was created to do. The feminine energy is the temperature. They do not have to try, they just are.

The reason so many women end up being the one that stays home and takes care of her family, is because her energy, when met with a healthy masculine, as I stated, sees this family as an extension of herself. And therefore, the innate desire to nurture, and create the right temperature can be damn near overwhelming. Infact there are a lot of women with powerful and amazing careers, that will leave it behind to focus on nurturing her family. Very few masculine’s would do that unless it was necessary, and only if they truly believed that it was the best way to create structure in their family. The feminine can and will keep the career and maintain the temperature of a family, but it is not for the faint of heart.

Read my post on the masculine if you want to understand more. I am not saying it again. lol

The energy is fucking powerful.

Let me put this in another context. I know, that when I walk into a room, I can have every single eye on me. I can have everyone’s attention, and they will be very aware of my presence. Is it because I am the most beautiful girl in the world? No. Beautiful is not even a word I would use for myself. Not in a self-deprecating I am so ugly kind of way, it’s just not the adjective I would use. No, it is because I know, that what I bring to the table, is the vibe. The temperature. The nurture. I hold the power to sway everyone’s mood and change the entire dynamic. And because I know this to my core, everyone else’s energy, is going to be looking for mine. They won’t even know that is what is happening, it’s not a conscious thing. it’s an energetic thing.

And because I know the energy I hold; I also am very confident that I will intuitively know how to interact with everyone in that room. Not because it’s a skill I have learned, but because that is what the feminine energy does. It sees to the heart of things, and nurtures it. I am not going to be wheeling and dealing in that room naturally. Haha no. That was a fun little skill I had to work hard for. But getting people to talk about their lives and what is important to them, and their family. yeah, I got that shit on lock.

As does pretty much every feminine energy ever.

I mean, they are not always going to want to walk into room and have every eye on them. That is the action not the energy. The energy is the temperature. And it will show up in every situation they interact with. The fem takes what is given to her, nurtures it and gives it back.

This is also why the feminine get caught up in abusive situations a lot.

They see the heart of it, not the action. They want to take what is given to them, and nurture it back to health. Which is not possible always. Especially with an unhealthy masculine. They are the structure. And if the structure is unhealthy, so is the rest. Just like if the temperature is unhealthy, so is the rest.

They are meant to work harmoniously with each other. Not as separate entities.

But I digress.

The feminine is far more powerful than we were ever taught to believe. Because the feminine energy can clock everything in a room in a matter of moments. The kids, the other adults, what needs to be done, what’s already been done etc. Not only can they clock it, but they can also change it if it needs to be. Just simply by bringing a certain presence to the room. There is never just one thing on the feminine mind. Not ever.

Our brains have this innate ability to hold a lot of information and process through a lot of different things all at once. Because of this, we are amazing multi taskers. I remember seeing a man doing a podcast or something… to be honest with you I don’t remember the context, but I do remember him saying that it was impossible to multitask truly.

Bitch bet, have you met a feminine who is fully in touch with her energy? I am going to assume not. *clears throat* Just because it is not true for a man does not mean it’s not true for everyone. The assumption is a wild one for me, because I don’t think they even see it that way. I do not believe for even a second that the masculine energy or men are inherently sexist. It just comes out that way occasionally.

This is the shit we were made for. To bring the temperature to our home, and to our interactions, to know that everyone on an individual level is cared for. (If we actually care for them anyway). Because of this we tend to know when something is off, and when there is something that needs to get done.

A feminine who has not embraced her energy is going to be nagging, and babying, and coddeling. Because the energy is there, we understand the temperature and that it needs to change, but we dont trust the masculine energy to do there job. And dont know how to bring about that understanding. So we do what those before us did. Its really very simple.

But a woman who has her man come home from work in a shitty mood, is going to immediately pick up on it, and want to fix it. This is her home; this is where her temperature matters the most. The toxic fem will absolutely be angry that he brought it home or start babying him hoping the mood will change. The healthy fem, will be his peace. The energy in her will recognize the masculine energy in him to be a vital piece of their life and the way it functions, and will start seeking out ways of changing it. If the structure is fucked… we are all fucked.

DONT FUCKING BABY HIM.

Should I say it again?

No, someone who is working well in their energy and has a firm grasp on the healthy feminine is going to spring into action, but they will do this, by refusing to let their vibe change. He is her man, not her child. He needs fucked, or he needs some cool down time alone, or maybe to vent, and get whatever is bothering him off his chest without someone trying to fix it. Maybe he needs an adventure, and the fem can for sure make that happen. Or a night at the bar with his friends. It will look different for every fem, and every masc will need something different. But she will find it! She will find a way to bring peace to her home again, because it is what is innate and natural to them. They want that.

Outside of a family dynamic.

Here is where things get very tricky. And I am about to piss a lot of people off. So let me preface this by saying…. remember how I said the feminine is powerful? They are. They are powerful, and energetically hardwired to be the center of attention. They are strong, and do not need a man to save them. But what is the temperature, without the structure?

The feminine energy will always be looking for the structure of the masculine energy. Our power is rouge, and we are not hardwired to create the structure ourselves. It is a learned skill built from necessity and can therefore do it. Any strong independent women has developed the skill. But a skill is not energy. It’s just reality. Not because she is seeking it out or can’t stand on her own two feet. Thats not it. It is that the energies are constantly seeking out the other.

The masculine, as the structure to that energy, will always find it to be a little easier to stand without the temperature. But fuck if they don’t have anywhere near as good of a time without it.

However, with that being said, the feminine is always looking for temperature. And they will create it in any way they can.

If someone is not having a good time at the party, the feminine will not dismiss it. They will be the first to talk to them and figure out why. They will naturally want to nurture the good in them and pull it to the surface. The feminine might be the one to pay off the DJ and buy a round of shots, and all that jazz, but most likely, she is going to hype up the one who is bringing the vibe down and bring out the confidence in that person.

We will do it with our friends.

At work.

With out parents.

At the gym.

This looks a little different for everyone. And someone who is really in touch with their feminine will not be afraid to bounce if the vibe is off, and we know we can’t fix it. But the really cool thing about the feminine is we can be a lot of different things for different situations.

Seductive and sexy to draw someone in and bring out the sexual energy.

Confident and sure to help others latch on to the vibe or to get something done.

Soft and gentle when someone is hurting.

Abrasive and intense when challenged.

But at the heart of all those things, what we bring to the table is the temperature.

So Anyway

My hope is that this gives you a glimpse or an idea of what the true Feminine energy, and if you want to go more in depth, be looking out for the podcast on this subject. It will probably get very yummy. This is just the fucking surface. Basic level shit.

I may be on this topic for awhile to be honest because there are so many things I want to get into concerning this.

Like how to fix a relationship by bring the masculine and the feminine back into harmony.

Sex between the masculine and the feminine.

Healing the Masculine.

Healing the Feminine.

Of course, every time I think I have enough blog posts and enough Podcast planned to get my point across, I think of a few more so… Yup

But hey, what do I know? I am just a woman trying to make it