I am so excited about the Beaver Full Moon coming up. I swear every moon I get so excited about for so many different reasons. But this one feels so in alignment with life right now, and the cycles that I am walking through right now. Sometimes, I have to find my way to the energy of the universe. Sit with it long enough that I can tap in and ground into the natural cycle of life. Usually, because I am not grounded enough in general.

But I have been steadily losing myself to the natural rhythm of life in such a real way, that I am noticing that energy flowing so naturally! Yall, I am over the fucking moon excited about this. Because it is something that I have been actively working on for a long time. sweet victory. *She says with a fist pump.*

So lets talk about it.

The Beaver Moon.

The beaver moon was originally named by northwest Pacific native tribes. It got its name because this was the time they would start putting out their beaver traps before the water started to freeze or move slower. The vibe around this moon calls for release and refresh. Preparing for the colder months, stocking up what could weather the freeze, and getting rid of anything that wouldn’t. This is late work by candlelight, deep conversation in the early morning, (The dark is an excellent place to go inward and reflect after all) the pattering of little feet in layers of fur, and the hustle of getting ready.

This is a time of releasing anything that will not weather the next phase of life. The power of this amazing moon lays in reflection. Taking a good hard look at life, and allowing the energy of release to infuse your life. No this is not a time of great action based on intuitive thought. This is a time to let the energy permiate. Look at your day. What feels right? What feels like it needs to go?

This looks like, ‘Does my morning routine ignite the feminine/masculine energy I need to get through my day’. This looks like ‘My interaction with the people around me, do I like those? Are they lifegiving?’. ‘This thing that I do, is keeping me from my goals, it feels stagnant, how can I remove this’

We are taking stock of the little things. The things we miss through the rest of life and transitions. But here lays true power. The power to only keep that which serves you, and get rid of everything that is keeping you from being the person you want to be.

What are we doing?

Ritual work! Release those habits that are holding you back. Release the relationships that are not making your heart happy. Rituals are amazing for this.

Heart felt conversation with someone you care about.

Ferment foods, or make tinctures, for the colder weather coming up. This is a great way to ground in the energy. Sickness? No, that does not get us where we are going. Let’s make sure we have enough medicine to get through the flu season. And of course, have all the yummy things we need to keep the gut microbiome healthy.

Take a fucking walk. What is people’s aversion to this? Get up, go outside, spend time in the quiet, and ground yourself in nature, the feeling of going inward. Great time to reflect.

Practice deep breathing. Focusing on feeling rooted and secured.

Practice looking at the resources you do have, and become deeply rooted in the thankfulness of those things. Gratitude journaling is really good for this.

Beavers work collectively. This is an amazing time to reach out to loved ones and share intentions, and connect with them. Make sure those relationships are sitting where they need to.

Now is the time to Hygge the fuck out of your home. Warm blankets, pine, cedar, or cinnamon-scented candles, or incense. Slippers, cozy pillows, Journals, yummy pens, tea, and comforting foods. Its time to create that cozy, settled, reflective energy in your home. This is a good time to do your fall decorating if you’re into that as well.

Beavers are master builders. This means their foundations are sturdy as hell. Take time to reflect on the foundations you’re laying in your own life. Journal the goals or “foundations” you want to set. This is a good time to muster up that 5 sense manifestation technique. Sometimes starting with the end in mind, allows you to see what is not working in your life now.

Just incase

Incase you need to release some Shame https://elizabetheternal.com/objectively-healing-shame/

Incase you need a little reminder about what this is all for. https://elizabetheternal.com/the-action-of-evolving-2/

In case you wanna dive into moon things https://www.timeanddate.com/moon/phases/

In case you want somewhere to start with astrology https://www.astrology.com/planets/moon

You read that right. There is joy in rock bottom

I said what I meant, and I meant what I said.

The thing is, nothing is inherently bad or inherently good. Everything is neutral until given context. I mean EVERYTHING. Drugs? Neutral. Sex? Neutral. Love? Neutral. And rock bottom is truly neutral.

The reason we have so much sadness there, and it feels so impactful is because all of our trauma, defining misbeliefs, and insecurities are being poked and prodded by absolutely everything in our lives. Even if that is simply loneliness.

Life is school. Everything in life is a reflection of yourself. The energy that you hold, is the energy you will attract. So when things are happening, it is a direct reflection of what is inside. And that can be a really fucking scary place to meet yourself at.

So, why is this joyful.

I say all of that like it’s the easiest thing in the entire world. Like being faced with everything broken and unhealed in you is easy as pie. It’s not. I know that. I have faced enough of my demons, chased down my own patterns, and been in enough extraordinarily dark places, to know that there is nothing fun about that.

Fun and joy are two different things. Maybe it is because I am a writer, and I love a really good story. But at the end of the day, there is nothing like a really good redemption arch. There is nothing as beautiful and raw and delicious as someone who is in a space that is uncomfortable and left with the choice to face it or drown.

We all struggle to face the truth when our life looks pretty good. When there is a relationship, and a job, and we are surviving. The truth is, we choose these things and cling to them with a death grip, because deep down, we believe that survival is all there really is. But when even that goes, when everything is stripped away, and its just you standing there, you can see clearly where you went wrong.

All the things you didn’t want become so clear. What is even better, is when you can look at it long enough to realize WHY you chose it. And then take the time to heal that part of you, to choose something different. That is joyful, that is beautiful, that is true and undeniable love.

Love

Loving yourself enough to find joy and pleasure in every area of your life is a hard thing to accomplish. I am not going to lie to you. It feels damn hard because when you find yourself at rock bottom, its easy to dip into self loathing. When you start to see all of the things you have done to get you to this point, and take ownership of your life, its far to fucking easy to dip into self blaming.

The thing is, you sucked sometimes, yes. I sucked sometimes. Sometimes… I still do. That is again a beautiful part of being human. It’s all a part of the experience. If you can find love for the part of you that does shitty things, you also find the love for healing it.

That is the crazy thing about life. All the jobs and the careers, the relationships, the break ups, the swings that feel like your stomach may fall out of your body, all of it… it all comes down to love.

Self love, the love for others. And rock bottom is the place you find true unconditional love for yourself. There is joy in that. All you have to do is find it.

But what the fuck do I know? I am just a woman trying to make it.

Objectivly healing shame is tottally possible.

If shame is something you’re ready to battle. There are so many ways to battle it. There are objective ways that work for everyone. I truly believe that. But doing things this way was easier for me, allowed me to grow in more ways than one, and gave me the tools I needed to go deeper and understand better. The underlying idea is objective! So make it work for you!

May work for you. May not. We are all so different, and those differences are a good thing. My example was one of the easiest for me to be honest, there were a lot of situations that I had to grapple through, and that was a lot harder. But trust me when I say it works for EVERYTHING. We are healing shame objectively. It won’t be easy, but it is an easy process.

And hey, if you wanna work through something like this with me, I would love to help you out with this journey, book a one-on-one with me. https://elizabetheternal.com/creating-the-feminine-energy/

I had so much shame around the fact that I smoked weed.

But why did I have shame about that?

Its a natural plant. One that I still indulge in fairly regularly. Not like I did before. I am not looking to get fucked up. I just want to be able to function when I am in pain, and sleep well.

There was so much shame around Weed, that when I said to myself “This could help me with pain, and could make it easier for me to sleep. This could help me avoid narcotics and muscle relaxers.” Which by the way, I am really good at becoming dependent on…. It still took me two more years of suffering in silence and forcing myself to do things I shouldn’t have in order to avoid smoking a little bit of weed.

It got to the point that even when I did ‘give in’ and used it, I would have insane paranoia. Now I use that word lightly here. Because that is the technical term for it. But if felt more like anxiety. I would be worried about whether or not I was doing the right thing. What if someone needs me? Or what if someone calls me, and I feel like I have to answer, and then they will know that I smoked because I will be more relaxed than I usually am and then they will think that I am not doing well and I will have to explain my choice… and I really do not want to do that.

Shame. So much shame for simply doing something that was genuinely helping me. But let me make something so clear, even if I just wanted to be a little stoned because it sounded nice, there still shouldn’t be shame. But I digress. We are talking about healing Shame objectively.

Get on track Elizabeth!

So the the thing that was helping me, was not even an enjoyable thing, and I got sucked back into the same shame cycle.

But I could not tell anyone that was what was happening. Hell no! I am not that weak. I don’t need it damn it! Just be a little stronger next time, make sure you smoke a little less, and put more parameters around something that should just be a thing that I used responsibly because I am allowed to do things, simply because they are pleasurable.

I traced it way back. Gained a bit of polarity over the situation. I asked myself a few questions.

The Questions. Bum bum buuummmm

-What is the objective truth about this situation.

Or What is the objective truth about weed?

My answer – It’s morally neutral. This is a plant, that is used in a lot of ways and has been used in medicine for thousands of years by many different cultures. The morality of it comes in by the way it is used, and the way it affects your life and loved ones. It can be used as a crutch. It can be used to escape. You can get yourself into trouble with it. But it is not just that. There is a positive side. The morality lives in the responsibility of the person partaking.

-I still feel shame. Why? When did I first feel this way.

Or, I am experiencing shame surrounding using this tool. Why? When did I first feel this way about Weed? Do I view it as a drug the same as meth or Coke? Is this really just not a good choice for me for some reason, and if so, what is that reason? (Yes I know that’s a lot of questions all at once. I’ve been doing this hot second. the meditation on this sort of thing is easier now. Start simple.)

My answer – I traced it back to a specific instance when I was in the church. And a man who had been smoking for a few years confessed his ‘sin’ to the church. He was ridiculed for the wrong he had done, shamed, and belittled by a room full of people. They kept saying his actions were “Selfish” And that the use of it “Proved his distance from God”. In the same event, they praised him relentlessly for stepping away from it.

Looking back… this man had four kids, a full-time job, and many hobbies outside of his home. He invested in his children and would take one of them on some sort of outing solo every week so that he could have one-on-one time with each of them. Was seriously involved with his family. Was excelling in his position at work, and at the end of the day would relax with a joint, this felt like a serious overreaction. But I digress.

This didn’t feel like the root of it though. Just another branch of a deeper issue, so I dived deeper.

LOOOOng story short, I had associated needing help calming down, with being weak. Anything that was a crutch, a coping skill, or even needing a hug after a long day, was shameful and proved I was not a strong being. This was confirmed in my young adulthood by seeing a man who was using it as a tool, be ridiculed and shamed for needing help relaxing.

-Is that objectivly true?

My answer- No I didn’t deserve it when I was a child. He didn’t deserve it as an adult.

So now its time to talk about it.

It was at this point that yes, talking about the shame, felt really wrong, and I didn’t want to talk about it still, but It made it possible for me to do the thing. To just say it. Weed wasn’t the issue. Feeling like it was shameful for me to not have it one hundred percent together, one hundred percent of the time, was the cause. My not being in my feminine energy, and allowing myself to be soft, vulnerable, and beautiful for exactly what I am, was the cause.

What is so much more amazing, is that when I did, I realized how many people I knew also needed to talk about it. How, when I released my shame, I was helping other people do the same thing. It allowed for deeper connection with others, and for deeper truth and honesty to enter my relationships, platonic or otherwise. I was getting the mushy ooey gooey curse all over everything anymore.

And you know what else? I got to take a nap! I was able to have pain days, and still function and do the things I love, without wanting to to cry anymore. I was a little more free. I am a little more free.

So..

I am so going to drop some yummy comfortable things down below, that I now indulge in fucking shame-free. Things that I would have said are over indulgent and I don’t need them because that is for weak women. But also some tools I think could be helpful.

https://amzn.to/3VYJvYn – Heating pad

https://amzn.to/3zkJi92 -Seriously so good.

https://amzn.to/3RK5KP1 – Fuckless book. Delicous read

https://amzn.to/3VFBTbV – Pain killers.

https://amzn.to/3ziX4c7 – Law of attraction may as well be a classic at this point. It will help.

Shame is a curse, and the rule of the curse is you can’t talk about it.

I heard this line from a woman named Mami Onami. I have honestly learned, healed, and grown so much from her, go check her out. https://www.mamionami.com/safehouse I’ve taken a few of her courses as well when they were doing a monthly subscription. And… well… go take them.

This particular line has been running through my head on repeat. Shame is a POWERFUL thing that we are all carrying on some level. It’s a massive Charka block. For me, shame was and is something I struggle with, because it was weaponized a lot through my formative years, and heavily reinforced through my young adulthood. Of course, in typical human fashion, I was amazing at self-perpetuating it through the rest of my life. At least until the last few years.

When it was explained to me like that, something just clicked. It snapped into place for me, in a way I can’t explain. Shame is a curse. It infects everything. Dripping its oozy gross self all over every relationship, every quiet moment, and every behavior. Once I saw it like this, noticing the gross invader became easy. I could see that Shame was a curse plain and simple.

That does not mean that dealing with it is easy. Because it is one thing to know there is a curse, its another to actually do something about the curse.

And the funny thing is, the rule of the curse, is you can’t talk about it. Shame is really good at staying inside. Because it wouldn’t be a problem if you didn’t have a problem talking about it. This proved to be true for me. Talking about it, felt like there was a little gremlin sitting in my chest, refusing to let me breathe and stomping around my insides until I felt like a pulverized piece of meat. If that doesn’t sound dramatic I don’t know what it is.

But its the truth.

The big giant emotions around this could be exasperated by the fact that I am an Aries. And you know us aries, always worried about the way we are perceived.

Dealing with the Curse.

Dealing with this block or the curse of shame, has made me a far nicer person though. Because for me, I had to get to the bottom of it. I couldn’t just talk about the things I was ashamed of, there was no amount of trying to force myself to do it that was going to work. I had to understand why I felt that way, and I had this desire to prove that it was all just so bad for me to ever talk about and that I was right to hold it in.

I even had the thought that I could be the one person who could hold things in, and carry the shame, but also release the block. The pride in me was just too fucking much. I cringe at myself a little now.

Getting to the bottom of things, forced me to look at myself and admit that something was wrong in the first place! Admitting that there were parts of me, whole ass parts of my personality, of my life, of my past, and coping skills, that I pretty much liked to pretend didn’t exist. To accept them as a part of myself.

To accept them as a part of myself meant that I had to admit I was being judgmental about other people who were struggling with the same thing. Remember, that everything you judge you’re secretly jealous of. Which made me look at people and the human experience very differently.

People with addictions are hurting. People who don’t get their shit together, are getting exactly what they need from life. People still hanging out in religion, are not prepared to leave yet, they may never. And they are getting exactly what they need.

Go check out this page if you want to schedule one-on-one time to go over this more in a way that is personal to you. Or if you just want a safe place to talk about it. https://elizabetheternal.com/creating-the-feminine-energy/

So yeah.

Theere is just to much I wanna talk about on this subject. So come back for part two.

Also, for all my lovlie feminine energies out there. You do not need these things to heal, you really don’t. But if you are going to embark on something like this, please protect and nurture the feminine energy through this. It’s easy to dip too far into the masculine when dealing with structural energies. I’m going into that in the next post.

Do it like a women damn it!

So these are a few things that gave me comfort and reminded me to go slow. You do what you need to do.

https://amzn.to/3VWAdvI -Cozy blanket.

https://amzn.to/3VDxiXE -Warming things.

https://amzn.to/4evL2w6 – Crystals

I really am someone who is blown with the wind often.

Or at least I was. And sometimes, that part of my nature rears its head and makes its self so blatantly obvious, that it’s hard to ignore.

I am an adventurous creature. I get bored so unbelievably fast. I really love always having clear-cut accomplishables. When those are gone, and its just abstract big goals, I tend to loose track.

Haha we getting honest in this one. Well, I am anyway. *Insert weird face tongue sticky outty emoji here*

I almost hate admitting that. I just wanna get on here and be like ‘My life is so together and I am so cool’

But It’s not. So here we are.

Did I like just do a post about shame?

Okay I’m done spiraling.

For real though. I like to be challenged and pushed and have a yummy list daily. It’s the way that I get myself motivated.,

It’s also the way I get the wettest. I pretty much just love it when someone can actually keep up with me and push me. I love it. I thrive on it. Let’s see who taps out first? Yes and thank you.

And when I dont have it, I get bored, and I do reckless things.

Kinda like…what I am doing now.

Do you have any idea how hard it is to keep myself focused and stick to the plan when I am bored?

Something that I have started doing over the last few years, when I finally just accepted that this is part of who I am as a person, and it is what it is… I give myself a challenge. The problem this time is that I don’t have fucking time! Who can handle any more stuff really? Not this bitch.

GUUUYYYYSSS!!! What do I do? The bordem might actually kill me.

I know what I need, and I feel like that is ninety percent of the battle. That last ten percent might actually kill me. Like dead and gone and no longer living, put my head on a stake, use me as a cautionary tale for all those that come after me.

All of that to say that no matter how much you heal, and manifest, and work through your shit, there are days. There are days when it is just self-discipline. You have to be willing to do the work no matter how hard it is. There isnt always some magic sauce (Although I know a few guys who have it….. Fuck maybe I just need to get laid, like yesterday) to make everything better. Sometimes it is just work.

I know what I want, and I am unafraid of what I want. I don’t want to get sidetracked and run off the rails. So I’ll figure out something. I always fucking do.

Becauase I am a bad ass

I am goddess

I am the queen fucking bee.

And NOTHING stands in my way. Nothing stands in the way of my goals, and you can bet your ass I am getting there. One way or another. Even if the next few months are going to be a bitch and a half until things settle down.

Thats okay. I am okay with that. If I can just settle in my mind that this is just what I am going to be doing for the next little while, and find ways of making it good or just bulldozing through. Either way, this is what it is. I am where I am, and quitting my job to hit the road or join the bar scene again would be the opposite of what my family needs. I can only do what I can do.

The action of evolving is Surrender. Surrender is open-mindedness. And life is for the living. 

I said what I said. 

 I know that makes people nervous, and childhood trauma leads us to this intense desire to have complete control over as much in our lives as humanly possible. The thing is, I am not discrediting that kind of life in the slightest. If that is truly what your heart needs and wants and you are perfectly satiated in that life, then you fucking go for it. There is no judgment here. Truly. 

The people that I am talking to today, are the dreamers, the growers, the ones that look at this life as a delicious opportunity to experience as much as they can in this lifetime. 

Check out https://elizabetheternal.com/the-fundamentals-of-fear/

As for my evolution

Since I have embarked on my healing journey, one of the most prevalent things I have learned is that I am an ever-evolving human. I am learning to fully embrace the action of evolving. What I have and want now, is not necessarily what I will want and need in the future. That is completely okay. There is nothing wrong with that. It doesn’t mean I was wrong then, or I am losing my mind now. I evolved. That is a beautiful thing. 

I would rather have had six different careers, and been stupidly, and incandescently happy the entire time than receive the accolade of forty years in one career. Have lived in twenty different cities and met thousands of people; giving my children and family an amazing adventure – than have bought just one house in a small town in a good school district, just because it was expected of me. There is something delicious about having experiences with as many people as feels right for me, rather then to have only been with one man because the church or society says that it would make me a purer woman.

The list goes on. 

Fluidity

I crave fluidity and surrender more now than ever before in my life.. I happen to really love my life. If I ever wanted anything different, I do have rules for myself, guidelines that I must follow. Like, it would need to be moving me further in life, not backward. It would need to not bring harm to my family. Things like that. 

But I would think about it. Spend time with it. Possibly even do it. Even if it was scary. 

That does not mean that I want to be blown with the wind every time it moves. I don’t want to be flighty and dip on everyone the second my mind starts to wander. It’s not that. 

It’s a willingness to be open to life. And whatever it may throw at me. 

I’m cool with it. I have found freedom in it. And I have no intention of chaining myself to just one thing. 

A lot of that is because I have surrendered, I do know what I want. And I am not afraid of my wants and desires. I embrace them fully. 

Surrendering to the ever-evolving self. 

Fuck I hate that word just a little bit. Surrender. Okay, a lot a bit. 

Because in the church it was always used to say, “Your life is what it is and if you are content enough, God will make you feel better about it.” That was always the expectation for me. 

FUCK THAT. 

For real. 

With a spikey fucking dildo. 

I am not doing that. Not ever. 

But, leaving that little idea of surrender aside, let’s dive into what that means in this context. 

Often, when we haven’t told ourselves the whole story and gained polarity of the things that have plagued us, we do this thing. become extremely hardened towards things that are perceived as ‘unsafe’. Ultimately it means our brains are doing the fucking job all the way. We really do have animal-like brains, once something is categorized as unsafe, that is it. We naturally start to gravitate away from anything that even slightly triggers that injured part of the mind. Then we form a comfortable life around what feels a little more comfortable. 

The healed and surrender

None of this is done consciously. It’s the subconscious part of the mind. It is the part of our mind that was developed when we were just little tiny humans and didn’t have the skills and ability to navigate hard things. Before we truly understood what these things meant. Usually before the age of seven, but as young as birth. Which by the way, is just really fucking annoying. But I digress. 

This is where people get tripped up with healing. They find that they can be free from some of the consequences of that trauma, but when the uncomfortable feeling of stepping outside of the safe little box that was created, it is assumed that it is intuition saying no. 

HAHA not exactly. 

This is the next step in the action of evolving. 

Surrender is getting comfortable being uncomfortable for a while. It is asking yourself what is underneath the uncomfortable feeling. When you surrender it is saying that you are willing to sit with the things of this life and be willing to step outside of what is comfortable. Ask yourself what is real to you outside of the trauma you have faced. And that is really scary. Surrender is the action of evolving. Moving forward, living life in freedom. 

True Open-mindedness is the path to Evolve.

True open-mindedness is your ability to be able hold multiple realities in you at one time. The one you are living. The feeling that you are getting – that the thing is scary and doesn’t feel right. But also, the reality that it is a fun thing and could help you learn and grow. And deciding which one is true to you in a real way. Not in a way that lives in comfort and refuses to shake the boat. 

What we seem to forget, I have already stated. We have animal-like brains. Though I think most of us would understand the analogy of computer-like brains a little better. This trauma creates a pathway in the brain, or installed software, that physically changes the brain to alleviate the threat and create coping skills just in case it happens again. You can heal all you fucking want, the pathway is there until you decide that you are going to change the pathway. I say that like it’s so easy, but in reality, this is very difficult. 

It requires you to sit with things. Ponder them, try new things, open yourself up to perceived vulnerability, and live consistently with the understanding that you could absolutely get hurt again. 

However, on the other side of all that healing and all that polarity and all that work, is freedom. It is a life well lived and a life you can be stupidly in love with. It is fluid and delicious and allows you the ability to continue to evolve. The action of evolving is surrender.

Did you know that fear is not something that we were supposed to feel? Fear and fear-based emotions such as jealousy, anger, contempt, etc… were never supposed to be something we as humans were made to experience. Our brains quite literally do not have the inferstructer for those emotions.

Lets start with the basics, shall we?

Think about the things that are innate to us as humans. When we are born, our little tiny baby brains already know how to do a few things. Which is cool if you ask me. This includes our ability to breathe, find food, form strong connections, love, and the ability to evolve. There is an argument to be made for experiencing pleasure. However, that is widely debated among professionals…. I would like to believe we do, but I don’t have anything to back that up with so take it as you will. We don’t need to learn how to do these things though, because they are necessary to our survival. We find this and readily accept this concept in the animal kingdom all the time.

No one bats an eye when an elephant or a horse is born, and are up walking within the first twelve hours. Why? Because it is necessary for their survival. We don’t question it. We don’t ask why or try to make them different than what they are, because if we want the species as a whole to continue, we know that they will need to have the ability to walk.

Those things that are innate to us, are necessary to our survival. We NEED them. What we do not have the ability to do, is experience fear. Our brains do not know what to do with it. And therefore, fear is not a brain thing, it is a nervous system thing. The fact that we don’t know what to do with fear is why we form such strong aversions to it. This is where trauma that lingers lives. We create a story and a coping mechanism that keeps us from experiencing that emotion again. Then it slips into the subconscious and we get to live with it until it’s dealt with.

Why is this important to understand.

First of all, it is an important concept to understand so that we are propelled forward to evolve. As I stated in this https://elizabetheternal.com/the-action-of-evolving/ blog. Evolving and learning are necessary components to the growth of our species.

But today, I want to talk about fear. Fear is a necessary part of the human experience.

I said what I said. I will pause for dramatic effect.

*Insert lame elevator music here.*

Contradictory I know.

But it is so fucking true!

How do we evolve if we do not experience some form of resistance? How do we appreciate life, and have deep pleasure, if we dont know what it feels like to have anything else? How do we overcome and become the people we were meant to be if we first do not have fear?

I believe that the fact we do not possess the ability to hold fear in ourselves without first creating the infrastructure for it is the whole point! I know it goes against like everything the spiritual community says on a regular bases, but I fucking love fear, and even have a soft spot for fear-based emotions. Because this means personal growth!!! Its a good thing.

I mean… it does not feel like a good thing at the moment admittedly, however, it is indeed good.

We need life experience. The good, and the bad, the painful, the scary, the weird, and everything in between because it allows us the ability to grow and evolve and experience pleasure, and satiation at greater heights than we would have ever experienced without it. It is my personal belief that this is why we have not evolved further, to know how to accommodate fear innatly. At this point, we really should have. The level of evolution we have experienced as a species is INSANE! Fear is something that most people experience literally from the moment they are born. So, naturally, that should evolve. But it hasn’t. I think the resistance we experience with these emotions, is just as important and necessary to our survival as what IS innate to us.

If we are spiritual beings having a physical experience. Then there are the things that those spiritual beings signed up for. It is all good in the grand scheme of things. And we love it.

It’s tough now. but it is apart of the process. Apart of the beauty of life.

I live in the freedom consistently, that life is school, and every time these emotions come up, it is an opportunity for personal groeth and to reach new heights of pleasure and satiation.

But hey, I am just a women trying to make it, so what the fuck do I know?

I will never tell a masculine what to do.

And oh how people are going to be so so so mad at me about this. I know. I can feel it. The tensions rising already with just that one little statement.

But it’s true.

I mean you can try. But take a moment all my lovely fems out there reading this. The last time you had a fight with your masc, what was it about? I am going to take a really good educated guess here, and say there is a good chance that the masc had made a decision about something, you didn’t love it and told him to do something else, and…. one thing led to another. Or, you told them “Hey you are going to do this” And that was not very well received.

Im going to wager a bet that a lot of smaller arguments between the masc and the fem start this way. It’s unfortunate because, it can be so easily avoided by the feminine leaning into her power. So, I am going to chit chat about this just a little. And the crazy thing is, the argument ends up being about something completely different. Because, the energy is out of alignment and the brain needs something to fix, so it creates it.

Keep an open mind, okay?

You’re going to need it.

I get it, you my little love are absolutely just as much in charge of this relationship as the masculine. There is no lesser, or greater in the dynamic. The only reason we see it this way, is that as a society, we only like to praise the masculine traits as being good, and the feminine as being subservient. This is a massive oversight of this energy.

The Structure is VITALLY important, but so is the temperature. This is a vital piece of the equation. They are both needed consistently.

When a man, any man, tells me “This is what I am going to do” And I don’t like it, my first reaction is to tell them no, and demand they do it differently. The problem with that, is the masculine is the structure. This is where his energy and his power live. This is where he is the most satiated and happy and where they are the most vital. The masculine does not need more structure, they need temperature.

So when the feminine challenges that, it’s problematic in their heads. It’s not a conscious thought, It is an energetic action. Because it brings into question their ability to take care of the things they love. It raises a bright burning target in there head and can flip a switch really easy to allow for defensiveness. The feminine will never get more enraged then when they feel they are not being heard.

And the battle of wills ensues.

This does not mean that I will be keeping my opinion to myself. It is that, I will be approaching things very different. I have a voice, but meeting the masculine with an outright demand is going to put them at odds with what you are saying. Their defenses are going to immediately pop up.

“Can I ask why this is not a bit more emergent?”

Or

“Can I get some more clarity on why we are not doing it this way? I will hear you, I just want to understand”

Something like that.

If they are a healthy masc, they will listen. If they are not…. girl what the fuck are you doing? Bounce. You are of high value, if you’re not being listened to, the cover charge is not being met. End of story.

If they continue down the same path, be vulnerable! Not manipulative, just honest. “This is making me a bit uncomfortable because.”

“doing things this way is making it really hard for me because…..”

“My anxiety is through the roof on this because”

This causes healthy discussion! We LOVE a good healthy discussion.

And ultimately they are going to do there thing. Ultimately the structure is going to be the structure. My energy can then be spent loving him anyway, bringing a sense of calm and coming along side them. Be the peace, and the driving force. Because then, if it does not work out, WE ARE STILL A TEAM. There is no I told you so’s or hurt feelings or pain. This is the time to realize that your power as the feminine, is to bring the right energy so that your family or your friendship, or your whatever the relationship may be, has the ability to stay intact. The masc cannot do that. They are the structure not the temperature. There power lives in there ability to create structure. Emotionally, spiritually, physically, etc. The feminine power lives in the temperature, emotionally, spiritually, physically, etc.

And any man can be seduced… into anything. There is always a back up plan.

But really. This is not saying that you need to just roll over and let your masc do whatever they want. They are not your over-ruler, they are your person. They are not your boss, they are your structure. If you need to go to bat over something, and it requires you to tell them what to do, then girl do your thing. But remember where your power lives. You set the temperature. You have the ability to change the dynamic at the drop of a hat.

It’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when.

Now in order for this dynamic to work, you do indeed need to be a high value woman. There is so much information out there on this topic. However, it says there is only one way to be this way, and that is just not the truth. Being of high value means achieving the life you want. Putting in the work and effort to be the kind of woman that you want to be. https://amzn.to/4cGp6gU This book is such a yummy place to start with cultivating this energy

The reason I say this, is because the masculine responds well to people and specifically feminines that know their own mind and have a basis to talk about things. I don’t make the rules, I’m just talking about them.

That’s my two cents anyway.

The feminine energy is emotional and we fucking love that about the feminine.

Or at least we should.

Let me explain. And if your looking for sort of the basics on the feminine energy, you can find that here – https://elizabetheternal.com/the-feminine-energy/ and – https://elizabetheternal.com/the-feminine-energy-part-two/

Part of the feminine energy, is the ability to see to the heart of things really quickly. The feminine is made to receive, to take things in and multiply it and give it back. We like to look at this only within the scope of child rearing. And while that is true, it does make it easier to raise a child when you can see straight to the heart of them, and understand what it is that they need to be able to overcome any obstacle, this applies to every area of life.

When a feminine falls in love, at least a healthy feminine that isn’t carrying around a bunch of baggage…. they fall in love with what is at the core of that person. The red flags we are always so ready to ignore? Yeah, that is because the energy sees it as the extra of life. Placing it on the same level of importance as what job they have or what car they drive or their favorite place to eat. It matters, but really not that much. Because it’s what is underneath that, what is true to the nature of a person, that matters the most.

So when that relationship ends, it is a grieving process. It is understanding that when that other person finally saw to the core of who we are, they finally waded through all the extra, they didn’t like what they saw. Or they never saw it at all, and we realized that our love for that person was far deeper then there love for us.

THIS IS EMOTIONAL. This is hard, and jarring, and makes us question our selves deeply. Remember, the feminine energy is emotional, and we love that about them!

The masculine is affected probably the same amount, but on a far less emotional side of it.

The masculine brings structure to the temperature. Because of this the way they approach pretty much everything is different. They see their family and the first thought is “I need to provide” Right? They think, “My family needs a good life so I need to make money.” and “They need my love and affection, so I am going to provide that” Its seeing the family from an external point of view, and diving in. Where as the feminine starts on the inside, and works its way out.

Does this make sense?

So they are less emotional, because they were just barley scratching the surface of knowing that person to there core. Once a masc falls in love with the true essence of the partner…. they cannot be swayed. Hence the masculine tendency towards obsession. But the heart break is more… not trusting themselves, than a deep grieving. They still grieve, but it’s on much different level.

The feminine sees someone getting hurt, and they automatically see to the heart of it, the core. “Oh my gosh, that feeling must be fucking horrible”

The masculine sees someone getting hurt and they see the threat, and how that needs to be eliminated “How could they possibly hurt someone like that”

See the difference there?

We need BOTH OF THESE energies to effectively help a situation. They are both so vital. And yet, the immediate response to the feminine energy is “Why are you being so emotional”

If I could add a gif in here of someone rolling their eyes, I so would. The blatant lack of respect for the feminine is so deeply ingrained in us, that we see what makes there energy so powerful, as being silly, and immature, and like a nuisance rather then being the strong and powerful thing it really is.

Name a masc that can hold that much emotion in there body and not fucking loose there shit.

I’ll wait.

We fucking love this about the feminine. When we give them the space to be emotional, and work through that, they learn how to harness it and turn it into compassion, and love, and deep satiation for life. But because it is so regularly belittled, and they have to stuff it down, they are not able to ever mature into the Devine feminine creature they were made to be. So fuck all the way off with the judgment. And just let them be who they fucking are and who they were created to be. This energy is just the beginning of a lot bigger of a picture.

Im just saying. The feminine energy is emotional. And we fucking love that about them. That’s my two cents.

I recently read this book and I really wish that I would have found it when I first started my journey. It is simple and gives really every day life things you can do. It may be a helpful tool! – https://a.co/d/0dPYC1q

This has been a really crazy week. Ive been unlocked in a lot of ways. Or at least that’s what it feels like. I won’t lie, I really love that. But I am finding something true to myself that I never really realized before, and I just want to talk about it for a minute.

The way that I find manifestation to be easiest, is using sex magic. But why? Why is this such an amazing tool for myself?

Without thinking about it much, I just assumed that this was because I was a sensual creature by nature. I love sex. I love the energetic nature of sex, and the way I feel when I am settling into divine sensuality. I love exploring and testing limits, and being pushed to the absolute max as often as I can. This is something that is real and joyous to me.

So, it stands to reason that when I take that energy, and apply a specific resolve that I am wanting to bring into my life, that it would be a powerful way of doing it. And it really is. It is a powerful way of manifesting to me.

But I realized this week, that it works because I am constantly reminded of the things I am manifesting. I go into these rituals by building. Building energetic flow in my body. Building a five senses profile for what I am manifesting and embodying that in my body. I build crazy heights of sensual energy and attach these things to it, and through my own release, also releasing something powerful into the universe.

It’s a heady and beautiful experience, that I love.

But because sensuality is something that I operate on a regular basis, I am consistently reminded of those five senses I built. And I automatically want to take it on. Leaving me in a fairly consistent state of living that life, the life that I am manifesting, in the here and now.

That is why it is powerful. That is why it is consistent. That is why I love it so damn much. It is combining a spiritual practice, with a physical practice, which gives me the energy and desire for the work associated with the thing I am manifesting. It puts me into a flow state, connecting me with source, and providing a consistent state of being that I can delight in.

Hahahaha I love this.