Elizabeth Eternal

Awe! The masculine. As a deep Fem, there is very little I find more alluring than the deep masculine. Because of the way these two energies are drawn to complete one another, I find myself turned on and ready to go so fast when I find someone who has truly tuned into their natural energy and embrace it fully.

It is a problem.

And now that I recognize the problem, I can fix it right?

HAHAHAHAHA no.

Not because I cant.

I just don’t really want to.

And maybe that makes me crazy, but it is what it is.

Also, these posts are going to be long. If you want to wait for the podcast, I really fucking get it. But here we go.

What am I talking about though?

The masculine energy has been portrayed within our current society in a very interesting way. It’s more a list of characteristics then it is the true energy behind it. I understood the masculine based on those principles for a long time now. And I am sure most people have that idea pretty well on lock.

The thing is you cannot qualify an energy to action. those things do not work together the way you think they do. They just don’t. Any energy does not belong to an action, a gender, or an idea. Energy is what is at the center of those things. And the way that energy is portrayed doesn’t really matter as much as the energy itself.

Let me explain in a different way.

I am someone who happens to not really hold back the truth. I don’t know why, but before I can even think better of it, I am telling you EXACTLY what I think. My filters are minimal at best on my best day. So if you’re a piece of shit. Chances are, I am just going to say that. But, if I put my hand on my hip, and cock an eyebrow, and you can just feel the judgment rolling off of me, me telling you “Hey, this is a really shitty thing you are doing right now” – is going to feel a lot different than if I make eye contact, and I approach you softly, and everything about my aura is telling you that I don’t mean any harm and then I tell you “Hey, this is a really shitty thing you’re doing” It’s going to be received so differently.

The action is what it is. It is not more or less true, but the energy behind it changes the way the interaction goes.

this is the same with the masculine energy. It has nothing to do with the action and EVERYTHING to do with the energy behind the action.

While the masculine is most often found in men. it can and is found in every gender. And honestly, I know a lot of men that hold very little if any true masculine energy. I also know a lot of women who operate in there masculine very heavily. It is what it is.

So, as I explain further the different sides to the masculine energy, I will use a lot of traditional ideals to get the point across, but please remember, that I am just putting it into words that can be understood.

So, what is the Masculine energy?

For the purposes of this, I am going to be talking about a traditional couple, and their family, because it is the easiest way to explain. The masculine energy acts as the structure of a home, whereas the feminine, is the temperature.

This affects everything about the way they will approach their family. The feminine will look at the needs of her family, as a personal attribute. Whereas the masculine will look at his family as a personal success or failure. Both are looking at the same needs, and seeing the same priorities but their approach to it is different.

The reason that it is most often men are the ‘bread winner’ (Hate that term so much but… it is what it is) is because when they look at their family, they see that in order to flourish, they need substance. They see the structure as a whole and recognize what is needed to keep his family safe and cared for. There was a time in history in which this meant they would go out and hunt as much as they could to make sure their family had food, but in today’s society, that need is met with a monetary value. So that is where their focus is going to be.

One of my favorite things about the masculine, is what I call singular mindset. It’s called a million different things, but that is my little phrase for it. The masculine energy is the structure, right? Which causes them to have this innate ability to hyper focus. It’s almost as if a part of their brain shuts off so that they can zoom in on one particular thing.

They have work mode. And when they are at work, the only thing that really exists in that moment is work. Yes, there doing it for the family and blah blah blah. But really, in that space, there priority is going to be work. Everything else will be secondary. I know a lot of women that fucking hate this about there masc. But heres the deal, we should LOVE this about them. Because there minds do not work the way the feminine brain works. His focus being somewhere else does not inherently mean that you are not the biggest priority. It just means this is what he is doing right now. And in order for him to take care of his family the way he needs to, he can’t have split focus. Split focus is something the feminine can do very easily. Which also makes focusing on a job harder (But I will get into that in a different post altogether). So let him be in that masculine energy. Recognize it for what it is, and I can almost guarantee that it will start to light a little fire in your belly. Just throwing it out there.

It’s my favorite because in a true masculine, that ideal is true for everything in their life. Not just work. When the masc is with his girl, she is the only fucking thing in the world. That is where all his attention is. And let me tell you there is nothing more delicious then being the center of someone’s world. Even for a few moments. Just saying. When they are with their kids, that is the only thing in the world. When they are doing a project, that is all there is. And if they find themselves not being able to focus on it, it probably means their energy needs to be somewhere else and they know it.

This is also why alone time tends to be really important to the masculine, and time with their friends, and time just hanging out. Because they give so much of themselves to each thing they are doing, what is innate and important to them gets put on the back burner. Their energy is the structure in which a family lives. And they feel that weight keenly in a very natural and innate way. It’s not a bad thing! However, it does require them to let loose often and have things outside their family and responsibility. Thats just reality. As a feminine in that dynamic, you should want that for them, just as the masc should want it for the fem.

This ‘singular mode’ is also why the masc tends to protect the fem very readily. Because the feminine energy, will immediately go to the ‘fuck’ place in an emergency situation. They are going to be getting their kids away from the threat, and making sure other people are out of the way etc. etc. but because the masculine energy is the structure, there first thought tends to be ‘how do I eliminate this threat’.

There Energy really is astounding.

The masculine energy does not ‘reside over’ the feminine. Both energies are of equal importance. But the masculine, being the structure, does mean that he tends to ‘oversee’ the household very naturally. Its not something they have to think about, or work through, or even a skill they have to learn.

Yes, they will have to learn the skills to actually implement those ideals, but the desire to oversee, is not something they will need to work too hard on. This will make a lot more sense when I post the blog about the feminine energy, and the podcast will be about the way these two energys work together, and I go a lot more in depth of these concepts, because fuck is it a lot of information to try and get through. So eventually it will all snap into place.

I hope.

Like… if I do my job well anyway.

Back on topic.

Lets put this in a way that will make a little more sense.

If we are talking about a traditional household, where a man is working, and a woman is staying home and taking care of her family. If a true masculine comes home from work, and his children are running amuck, and the house isn’t clean, there first thought is going to be ‘is my fem okay’.

Toxic masculinity will start laying into her, and getting frustrated. But a true masculine that is working in harmony with his feminine, will immediately go to ‘where is the problem, and how do I help fix it’. Very few actually give a shit if there are toys laying around and some dishes in the sink. But this home is the place his fem should be flourishing, so if it’s not done, there is a missing link somewhere in the structure and their innate desire is going to be to care for the fem.

This is going to look different for everyone. And the way they approach the situation is going to be different, because again, this is not an action, this is an energy they hold. So, they may go find their girl, and ask what she needs, love on her, fuck her, you know, the basics. They may immediately just hang out with the kids to give her a break, or start cleaning, or they may order a pizza, get the kids and himself cleaning, and declare that night a sit on the couch and watch movies kind of night. Who knows. But the energy he will be bring is to make sure the structure of his family is being cared for. Period.

Am I making sense?

fuck I hope so

Outside of a family dynamic.

This idea of the masculine being the structure means that he still is that, outside of his home. The way he interacts with his fem friends, is going to be different then the way he interacts with his buddies. There is a level of care and protection that is innate to the masculine energy that cannot be left behind just because he is not with his family,

He will do this with his mother

He will do this at work.

He will do this in every situation,

Because he holds that energy,

His natural desire is to create structure.

The thing is, we like to think of that as this ridged, intense thing. But it’s really not. The energy there, could be… going out to a bar with his friends, realizing the vibe isn’t quite right, so he pays the DJ to play certain songs, buys everyone around a shots, and gets everyone’s vibe to a more desirable level. Or if that is not financially possible, gets everyone to a different bar.

This could be, seeing a friend who is struggling hard with something, and offering to teach that friend a new skill.

This could be, seeing someone who is hurt, and fixing the issue. This is not generally done in a nurturing way. At least that I have personally witnessed. It’s usually making sure they are okay, getting them out of the situation. Basically, becoming a pillar, or rock, or structure to allow the fix or healing. This is something the Feminine energy desperately needs. But also, another masculine’s when they are not currently in a good zone.

Masculine’s who are in their energy and healthy, create structure very naturally and not in a domineering way. Just what they bring to the table energetically.

So anyway.

My hope is that this gives you a glimpse or an idea of what the true masculine energy, and if you want to go more in depth, be looking out for the podcast on this subject. It will probably get very yummy.

I may be on this topic for awhile to be honest because there are so many things I want to get into concerning this.

Like how to fix a relationship by bring the masculine and the feminine back into harmony.

Sex between the masculine and the feminine.

Healing the Masculine

Healing the Feminine.

Of course, every time I think I have enough blog posts and enough Podcast planned to get my point across, I think of a few more so… Yup

But hey, what do I know? I am just a woman trying to make it?