I think this is going to make a very specific type of person really uncomfortable if I am honest. Any time that I talk about this, whether on social media,. or in my everyday life, I get one of two responses.

1. They look at me like I am crazy, and do not understand real life. Which…. fair, I don’t know your perception of life, and truthfully, if you feel this way about pleasure, then I genuinely don’t want to.
2. The eyes are opened, and they jump in full swing, no backing down. And I honestly love these moments in time, and this ripple effect that it is has. There is something so delicious about seeing someone fall in love with their life.

There really isn’t any in between, which I find to be interesting. Most of the time, people are on a spectrum. Not just with things I say, but in general. But with this, that doesnt seem to be the case.

So lets see!

The problem

*YAAAAWWWNNNNNN* Life is fuck boring!!!

I’m sorry, but not sorry; Life set up in the American way, for most people, is boring as shit. You get up and get ready to go to work. Then you go to work. And then you work. And then you come home and maybe kick back with some people. Maybe you hang out with your family. Eat dinner. Go to bed, so you can get enough sleep to go do it again. ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!! I am supposed to be excited about that.

No, that is Upsetti Speggetti. That is a depression hole. That is… My worst fucking nightmare. I’m not gonna lie.

And not because my life doesn’t look like that at its core. Because really it does… without all the extra. I have a scheduled, driven, pretty intense life.

I tottaly get it.

But let’s face it, when we allow that to be the narrative of our life, it’s not exactly awesome. And let’s be so honest: the mental health crisis we have going on in America is outrageous! Because life is hard, boring, and just downright blah. There is no spark, no joy, nothing that really makes our heart sing.

And should we go into the fuckery of clinging to a romantic partner so hard because they are the only thing that brings real joy? That’s a really good way to have the relationship crumble in the worst way possible. Lets not do that.

Okay?

Cool.

Romantize Baby!

We live in a world where this is the norm. And you can absolutely manifest the life that you want. But so many people don’t realize they are blocking their manifestations, because the energy you need to be in to make yourself energetically aligned with the thing, is not…. bordem.

We are doing energy work around these manifestations. And sometimes we really need to heal our relationship with our current life to get there. I know I know, seems counterintuitive. But what you allow you attract.

You don’t have a really annoying thirty-minute commute to work. You have thirty minutes twice a day to enjoy the scenery, listen to the best music, or catch up on some podcasts. You have thirty minutes to sing too loud, laugh too much, or simply be in silence to rebalance things. Fuck, you may even have thirty minutes to call your girlfriend/boyfriend, or your mom or something. You have thirty minutes twice a day that are all yours.

You do not have to eat better. You are making delicous, fullfilling food that is nourishing to your body, with all the prettiest colors, and clever food combinations that hit so perfectly.

You don’t have to take a shower. You get to reset, refresh, and cleanse the body of old energy. For all my lovely ladies out there, you have a solid twenty minutes to tap into the divine feminine and let the energy penetrate every part of your energy. And for you men, same, but the divine masculine.

Do you see the difference there?

Fall in love with your life.

Fall in love with the simplest things.

And watch yourself bring in the thing you are manifesting. Because you are becoming that version of yourself…. the universe has no choice but to bend to your will baby.

Let it all come from a place of pleasure.

Just a thought.

My pleasure.

Look baby. Just lean in a little closer. Don’t worry I got you.

My pleasure-centered morning routine? Oh, let me tell you. For a long time, I had a list of everything I had to do to have the most successful day—a list made by men by the way. And I just… I am not a man. It was hard and low-key exhausting. Maybe that morning routine will be good for men. I don’t know, but here is how I transformed my morning into something that brings me pleasure and sets the tone for the day, deeply in my feminine.

I did this even when I had littles in my house, I just got up a bit earlier.

So when my alarm goes off, I lay on my back and stretch my body out while I hum softly. Triggering the vagus nerve and bringing my attention back to my body. I practice so much gratitude here and check in with my body. Figuring out what it needs and how I should approach certain parts of my day. Then, I take some time to get myself off. Here’s the deal, I am not doing anything crazy with my pussy at this time. FUCK that. No, this is literally a vibrator on my clit, while drawing my attention to that creative energy housed in the reproductive organs. Obviously, this is a really pleasurable and present moment.

When I am finished there, I get up and open the blinds in my room, letting in the light, go to the bathroom, grab a joint, and get dressed. Then I go for my morning walk, while I smoke. This is usually at least two miles. I like to take my pup with me, and just enjoy the world around me. Talk to the cute old lady who is always sitting on her porch. When It was warmer, I always liked to grab flowers from the guy on the corner, who just put them out on a cart with a donation jar. Whatever feels good here, I do. My littles loved going on the morning walk.

Then, I make a pot of coffee, Journal (Just morning wake up stuff, writing down dreams, Setting my goals for the day, things I need to accomplish. So much graditude.) And then I shower.

My shower routine is a little insane. I like to dim all the lights, and turn on music that really invites the feminine in, or a guided meditation for the same thing. Whatever feels good. But my showers are ALWAYS rituals. Washing away any stagnant energy, and inviting in whatever I would like to hang out in that day. This is a really delicous time. That I absolutely love.

When I am finished, I get dressed and then turn on a podcast (Usually on Spirituality, business, or personal growth), I do my makeup and try to make my hair look somewhat done… It’s always a mess, but I have learned to embrace it. I take my time with my makeup ngl. I look at my face as a work of art, noticing each thing I have to do, and generally doing some glamour magic here. But the podcast is always still going when I am done, so it’s the perfect opportunity to finish it up while I look at my calendar and figure out what I need to do with my day. Making a plan based on my morning check-in with my body, the energy I cultivated in the shower, and the journaling I had done earlier on. While also jotting down some notes about the podcast if needed.

I know it sounds like a lot. But for me, it is so simple, it hits all the things I need it to, and I can flow so easily through it that it really does feel like complete flow and connection with source.

Because that is the goal, pleasure, everything you need to accomplish, and connection with source, this is going to look so different for everyone! DM me if you wanna work on your routines with me! We can totally talk about a plan for that.

It’s Monday, baby! Are you kidding me? I love Mondays.

I am so here for a fresh start.

Fuck there even days that I am like “You know what, we are starting over” Then I go take another shower, and start the day all over again. Not gonna lie, sometimes a reset is needed!

Don’t get it twisted, this is the vibe. Messy hair and all baby! Lets be super fucking honest.

But, that’s not the entire narrative. Did I enjoy my weekend? Fuck yes. I got to cook and clean and hang out with my family/friends. I vegged out one night on the couch with a snack and watched way too much fucking TV and it was AMAZING! Not to mention the nice long bath, and manifesting I did. I feel so good after my weekend, and I am entirely so ready if that was my everyday life.

Getting back on the grind is, like…. not the best. Okay, it really isn’t. Long days with my nose to the grind, doing everything, having to stay focused. Sometimes it’s a bitch dude. Not gonna lie. But…

A change in perspective

Something that I have learned through Pagan religions, and witchcraft, as well as Hindu, and Orthodox Jews, is that every single piece of the puzzle is important, and life is made up of cycles.

There is something that our energy and our minds do when we are really intentional about these cycles. When we move into the flow of life rather than resisting it. It’s just -simply put- easier. Life is easier when you lean into what your life is rather than being a grumpy asshole about it.

Life doesn’t get harder on Monday, we are restarting the cycle. We are in spring! We are in a zone where everything comes alive again, and this energy is yummy. Is it hard to refocus? Yes of course it is. Is it challenging to work when you haven’t had to in two days, and you are feeling so relaxed and refreshed? Of course, it is! But it’s spring, let it be a little simpler. This is the cycle of my life, and we are leaning into it.

Something I think a lot of people like to forget is that manifesting is not saying a few affirmations and doing some energy work. I mean, it’s not only that. That is actually a really important part. But true manifesting is looking into your future, and getting really honest. What does that version of me have that this version of me does not? And then become that person. The only thing standing between you and the dream is time, and in this time, we are preparing.

This looks like developing the habits and mindset, that person has to have. What kind of rituals or routines do they have? It’s time to implement them. And I GARTENTEE that version of you is not moping and griping about having to get back on the grind when the time comes.

How though?

Dude me too.

If it sucks, it sucks, and you will not catch me over here pretending. I am feeling what I am feeling. PERIOD.

So that meant for me, I actually had to find a way to change the energy around Monday.

Lets talk about it.

Monday is a BEAUTIFUL time to get up a little earlier than you would the rest of the week. Don’t whine at me! This is just my perspective. Do with it what you will. But it is. Your entitled to your wrong opinion.

I say this because it gives you more time to fully ground into your day. I use this extra time to do some tarot. Maybe do a little energy work and get that picture fresh in my mind about the future and where I will end up. Drink my coffee slowly. Watch a podcast or something to help get me thinking and excited about my day while I fix my hair and put on my makeup. I’m going to be honest with you: I get up a solid ninety minutes earlier on Mondays.

I am not going to say that’s always easy, but I do it, and I am intentional with that time. I get cozy, I go slow, I warm into the flow, and let myself have whatever I need to get through the week in the right energy.

This is going to look so different for everyone. Maybe you need one last hit before turning off your brain, and you spend that time scrolling TikTok. I don’t know your life. But whatever you do, and whatever the goal is right now, whatever you’re looking forward to, do it with love and care and find a way to make Monday, exactly what it needs to be.

I woke up ninety minutes early and still was barely ready for work on time. But I did it, and I am in the right energy. It was worth every single second.

Vices are amazing.

We love vices.

Or at least I do.

Weed, alcohol, sex, sleep, television, shopping, etc.

They are all delightfully good.

The problem is, these are all distractions. There is nothing wrong with distractions. Sometimes, we need them. Sometimes, the problems are so big, the stress is so all-consuming, and the emotions are so big that distracting the mind for a little while is really a very good thing.

Unfortunately, we don’t tend to leave it there. We just keep giving in to the distractions, using these vices as an excuse not to actually face anything. We have to in order to evolve. We have to be willing to face the harder emotions that feel really big and really hard.

This is a place for deep, deep healing. If you’re not ready for that, no worries! Come back for the next one.

Why?

Remember all my posts about the way we develop, and how we attain our trauma? I’ll link one here just in case you haven’t. I don’t want to explain it all again.

In a nutshell, our minds and bodies are not set up to cope with fear. So, when we experience fear, we create a framework of what is and is not safe. This is pretty hard for future us to cope with because often, the things our minds deem unsafe are the things that will make us the happiest and give us the most pure joy in the future. Anytime this injured part of the mind is triggered, it gives an emotion of sorts. Fear, anger, mistrust, etc. And we use vices to ignore it. and thus, ignore the opportunity sitting in front of us.

In order to grow, and evolve, in order to find true peace, those hard emotions have to be sat with. They need to be understood, so we can find the root and dig that shit out.

No one wants to be broken forever. But facing those things can feel like the biggest and hardest thing we will ever do.

Honestly, I would rather face just about anything than to sit with my own vulnerabilities. There was a point in my life, I was willing to shut down absolutely everything in order to do exactly that. Became a tough, hard, shell of a woman who was in control, and sure of my every move. Blindly sure…. I made a lot of mistakes.

How?

I am not just going to tell you that you need to sit with your demons. Although I am doing that, sit there, make friends with them, get comfortable with being extremely uncomfortable. It’s important. But I am also going to tell you how. Because it is easy to say these things, it is entirely different to actually do them. If you would like to go through this one-on-one, go ahead and shoot me a private message, and we can talk about a one-on-one plan.

The next time that you feel the overwhelming desire to give into one of your vices, whatever that may be, alcohol, weed, TV, etc, pause. Take a moment and check in with your body. Where are you tight, what is happening in your mind? Where is the emotion living?

The really interesting thing is that sometimes, what we are actually feeling is bored and lost, and lonely. There are so many reasons this could be coming up, but the truth is, we do not have to live there. If that is the life you want, then you do your thing. But I will ask you, what do you actually want? Sometimes, dealing with this shit is just being radically honest with yourself, and admitting that you want something entirely different.

When you have an idea of what is happening, turn your attention. This is tricky because everyone is so different. For me, this is getting comfortable physically. I like to grab a blanket and get warm. Find my favorite pen, and my journal, and start writing. Sometimes, for me, it is self-care, like an everything shower, with light peaceful music. Or a walk next to the water, as the sun is going down if I have the option. These are things that would usually bring me comfort, and make me feel physically comfortable.

So before you even attempt this, have a plan.

The actual hard part.

What makes you the most comfortable, the most peaceful? Be ready to do those things in these moments, even if you really don’t want to. The truth is, you may be in this zone for an hour, but you may also be here for days. Everyone is different; every trauma and defining misbelief is different, and the way you relate to it is going to be different. Find comfort through it! Be nice to yourself through it, either way.

Doing something about it? Facing it? Doing what you have to do and being a little more brave about it? Yeah, that shit is fucking hard. In some cases, it is impossibly hard. These things, these emotions, these vices, they are the only thing that makes any sense. The only thing protecting what is undoubtedly a rather squishy heart. So digging a little deeper and truly facing it can feel daunting and big, but it’s really not. It’s a thing that happened. You can’t change it, you can’t make it different. You can’t go back in time. The only thing you can do is admit that it exists and be willing to do something about it.

So then, let your mind settle on the emotion that you are feeling or grouping of emotions. Spend some time with them, and trace the emotion back as far as you can. Not the circumstance you are currently in, but the emotion.

Simple. And yet, challenging, because the biggest part of this, is the way you follow these emotions. There is a lot of shame that comes with this, and a lot of fear and anxiety and a lot of self-hate usually. The trick, that makes that truly work and feel good, is the ability to meet each and every one of those things with love and compassion. Meet it with understanding, with a firm understanding that you are human, and you are seeing these things with so much love and compassion.

Yes this works.

Every time

Objectively.

Then what?

[I feel a need to disclaimer this part, if you are dealing with very big, and really challenging things, and you have the desire to do this, it would be wise to find someone to walk through this with you. Some wounds deserve to be dealt with, with far more care, and love, so you can be met externally, if internally you can’t find it. It’s important to feel ready for something like this and to be really well-grounded. Which will absolutely be the topic of a future blog post]

Now that you know where this comes from. Tell yourself the truth. What is the truth about wherever this comes from? I can say, pretty emphatically, that this will go back to Childhood. Why? That is where all of our core traumas exist. So this often comes with telling the truth about a simple mind that had no veil between the conscious and the subconscious and experienced things at absolute max volume every minute of their day. Good, bad, chaotic, hard, joyful, all of it at one hundred percent. Which means now you do too.

Tricky tricky!

Because our natural desire is to go inward usually. Why you were wrong, and why you deserved it, or that you are just so unlovable that this is okay.

Fuck that.

No.

We don’t do that

We tell the truth. What was really happening?

There is a Toltec wisdom that, when summarized, says to take nothing personal. You can find so much information out there about self-limiting beliefs. But what I love about the Toltec wisdom, is that it wastes no time. They do not bother meeting anyone where they are, but rather get down to the heart of things, and present themselves in their raw honest form. Don Miguel Ruiz wrote a book called The Four Agreements. Highly recommend. I’ll link it below

But, we don’t take anything personally. The things that led to our traumas very rarely had anything to do with us. And everything to do with the agreements the other person had made with the world and about themselves. Truly, they had their own traumas and agreements they had made to survive as well. That’s why going into this with so much love and compassion is crucial. It allows you to get the whole picture.

When you allow yourself to sit with it long enough in this way, this really amazing thing seems to happen. I have experienced this so many times. I have walked with others through this so many times that I can say with my whole chest…. this will happen. Give it enough time. But this shift happens inside of you. Where the emotion is something you recognize as being a part of you, and the way that you exist, but it doesn’t have to run the show.

Because in reality?

That was a thing that happened, and it sucked. It was hard.

But I don’t need this behavior from it. It’s not necessary. I’m smarter now. I understand better now. I have more power now. I do not need that limiting belief.

And If I dont need the limiting belief….

I dont need the safty.

If I dont need the safty….

I don’t need the distraction.

Because the truth is? I’m okay.

Link

Body Print by Dusan Rakic

This actually stopped me dead in my tracks. I found it on Pinterest, of all things. Of course, I was looking for a new bathtime recipe… I like to do magic with my baths… but this lovely piece of art was just sitting there all innocent like it wasn’t about to shake up my entire night.

I just stared for a moment, Unsure what was shifting in me, but man alive, was it shifting. *cough cough* if anyone wanted to drop a few hundred bucks on me, I wouldn’t exactly be sad about it.

The colors, the lines, the raw emotion, the way the city blurs into obscurity. This painting is my vibe for sure, and it’s absolutely stunning.

Story time

The light bulb moment for me was the moment I realized the energy that was coming over me. I’ve only experienced this energy a few times in my life. It’s elusive for me, and yet I chase it constantly. Every time I get close, well… we add another thing. But it reminded me of one time in particular.

I had this experience when I lived out in the country down south. I had no neighbors at all (which, by the way, is one of the most freeing things in the world, and I cannot wait to get back to it), and we were having a classic late spring storm. Let me tell you, a southern storm is entirely different than what we experience up here in the PNW. The rain comes down in the biggest droplets, there is usually thunder and lightning, and when the wind comes in…. girl. #Fullstop

But I had just taken my pup on a nice long, like four-mile walk while the storm had calmed down a bit. So I could make sure he was well exercised, poor guy was used to basically living his life outside with me most days. But of course, the rain started right in the last half mile of that walk. So, I turned off the device that keeps a perimeter around us (He was always off-leash, and I just used an electric fence that would beep when he got too far away) and let him run home, because of course, the thunder started up to, and despite his name, Thor is terrified of the thunder.

He ran, and thankfully, I could see him get underneath the covered porch of the house. I could feel myself at this point being drawn to do something else entirely. But, like, I had a job to do. When I caught up to him and let him into the house, I got him all dried and gave him a chew toy. He went and curled up next to the fire I had going in the wood stove. And once everything was quiet again, this overwhelming desire to go back outside came over me like none other. At this point in my life, my days were all intuitively led, so I was really in ‘flow’ pretty much no matter what I was doing or what was going on. Which really means I was used to that intuitive pull, I had been practicing it all day, every day.

By the time I got back out there, though, the sun was setting, leaving the scene this dark sort of muddled shade of grey. The rain had picked up so thickly that small streams of water were already forming in the dirt road. I took a deep breath on the porch, protected from the worst of it, and let the smell of wet earth and rain fill me to the brim. Grounding myself there. There is truly nothing like a really good storm in the south.

The thought process behind all my clothes coming off? I am not even really fucking sure when I had made that choice. One minute I was breathing deeply, the next, I thought, “Fuck it” and all the clothes were coming off. I ran into the storm, fully naked, and just stood there, my face lifted to the sky as the water instantly soaked me entirely. It’s worse than getting into a shower… walking out in a storm like that. It is instantaneous. The lightning kept cracking right over me (Yes, it was a close storm, no, this was not safe; I am so aware, and it was worth it), casting light through my eyelids occasionally. It felt raw and powerful. Like all the power that was coming down upon the earth was coming right through me.

Enigmatic, stunning, absolutely brilliant.

But that is not even the energy that I am talking about. After a moment, I kept getting this word pounding through my head. Surrender. I didn’t even know what that meant in this context. I was just standing in a storm, totally naked and enjoying this energy that Mother Nature had provided. To me this is surrender. What could I possibly need to do to surrender?

I ended up moving over to the grass and sat down, letting my head lift back up to the sky, never having left that grounded, really heightened, good energy. I was absolutly in love. And I just meditated on surrender. Didnt try to force the thought in any direction, just let myself be fully present with the idea.

And this weird thing happened. I never really figured it out, but I was calm. The energy had settled inside of me. Still just as powerful, but it was as if it was a part of me, not just moving through me anymore. I smiled into the storm, beyond thankful and allowed. Surrendered, let this big energy have a home inside of me, and just…. sat there. It’s a hard thing to explain, really. But it was as if I could just be there with all of it. Entirely in the moment. Soaring, and yet grounded, chaotic, and yet peaceful, frightened at times, in the biggest fucking way… especially when the thunder would hit so hard it felt like the earth was shaking, and the lightning would strike at the same time… and yet calm.

I could hold so many realities at the same time. So many powerful things, and I could just be with them. It was an amazing experience. A different level of surrender. A beautiful, expansive, and delicious level of surrender.

My thoughts

So anyway. That’s the story of how I figured out what I have been chasing for the last few months. I didn’t know what I was looking for, and I think that’s a lot of the reason that this season has been so tumultuous. Why can’t I seem to settle? Because I was fighting for something that didn’t have a name. Surrender, truly, and fully. Though…. That sure sounds a lot easier in theory than in actual practice.

Thanks Dusan Rakic. For clearing a few things up for me.

It’s 2025 baby!

Y’all, here we are, and I could not be more thankful for 2024. It was hard and transitional, and so much changed; it’s insane, but here we are. No matter where you are starting from, this year can be an amazing one.

The thing is, I am starting this year in a dark place. I am always going to be really straight up with you, and right now, my life is a little crazy, and I am getting it from all sides. When I tell you that my showers have become like an hour long, I mean it! Nothing quite like the hot water to wash away all the nonsense.

That’s reality though, isn’t it? Nothing seems easy when you are on the cusp of something amazing. It’s usually pretty shit if I am honest. Right now is no different for me at all, I am in the thick of it. And so many others are to. If you are, I am standing here with you baby, let’s get through this. If you’re not, I am overjoyed by your fortune, and pray it continues.

No matter where you are starting, or what is going on in your life, this year, in 2025, we are achieving. This is the year for us to get the things we have been striving for and wanting and working so hard for. This is the year that the tables turn. I can feel it in my jellys.

What to expect

This part of the blog is very much about setting up the tone of how I want to move forward, and the kind of things that you can expect from me this year. I don’t love making blogs like this. It feels like it holds very little value for you as the reader. But here’s the deal, I want to bring you into the know a little bit. And hold myself accountable for the things I say I am going to do. ADHD at its finest – If I don’t make a big deal of it, then I am going to forget. It’s not even that I give up on those things, my mind just gets lost in all the other stuff, and slowly but surely, those things become less and less important, and I forget. It’s ridiculous. But I always say, the more you know yourself, the more you know yourself. And this is no exception.

I am making a few commitments to myself this year.

1. No casual relationships. This one is a bitch for me. There is nothing wrong with relationships that are simple in nature, and that you just simply exist in without the pressure of going long-term, or building a life together. These relationships have been some of the most beautiful, and rich, and genuinely helpful and life-giving to me. But this year is all about focus and I am building the life I want. This means, finding my forever people. And I can’t do that if all my time is spent with casual.
2. One business, or personal development book, for every fun book. Look, I am a reader. I closed out 2024 having read 57 books. Only four of them were for business or personal development. Could you imagine if I had read 25 books, genuinely applied the material, and let it grow me? Fuck, dude. I want that level of growth in 2025. Please and thank you.
3. Letting myself be intuitively led. Listen. I am a creative being, and my intuition is generally fucking on point. I’ve learned to trust it emphatically unless it directly applies to me. Why? Because I am a rebellious bitch sometimes, and the idea of acting or not acting on something that makes so much sense to me, just because I get a little turn in my stomach, or I have a thought is actually fucking wild. But as I said, my intuition is very rarely wrong, and while I have allowed myself the freedom of listening in a lot of areas, I want to open myself up a little more.
4. Grow my fucking blog! I have been so satisfied with the little audience that I have built. It’s not huge, but it’s full of people that I have come to just simply adore. Yall are the fucking shit. Keep those private messages coming baby, I want them (Although you guys, why is the comment section so fucking bare? Work with me here) But, I want to grow, and I want this to be more of a priority for me. Writing is my happy place, and if I can have a stream of income doing this, then I would like that to become my reality. So our little fam here is going to be growing. Yes, and thank you!
5. Then I have a few for the buisness I am currently in the process of purchasing. And some micro habits I am working on.

How to figure out what your goals are.

I really wish that five years ago someone would have made this clear to me, and taught me how to create goals. I find it so frustrating that everyone is so quick to say that you need to make them, and stick to them, but what does that actually look like? I had to figure it out on my own. I am sure there are a million ways to this, and the way that I do it is not right for everyone but, I can still share, and maybe itll resonate with some of you.

1. Meditate.

Take some time, and get quiet, clear your mind. Now I don’t mean to sit like Buddha and hum. That’s not the kind of meditation I am talking about. This is a powerful tool for certain things. But with this, well, there is no way that I would be focused on what I want in the future. This would go spiritual fast. No. Instead, find something that you can do to clear your mind, and let it wonder about the future, and what you would like your life to look like.

Get detailed about this. What does that version of you do in the morning? What do they do throughout the day, what do those habits look like? What job, or lack thereof, do they have? What are the simple pleasures they enjoy? What kind of clothes do you wear? All of it.

If you can’t answer this… STOP. Your goal is to learn yourself. I don’t make the rules, that is just how it is. I’ll put that process in another blog. But seriously, your manifestations, your goals, the relationships you want, all of it, are not going to work, because you’re aligning with something that isn’t for you. Because you don’t even know you!

2. Write that shit down

Write it down, print pictures, do whatever you have to do to lock in the energy, know it, and make friends with it. That is the key. Because this is the why. This energy, this love, and abundance, and joy, the dream, that is the why. If you can attach genuine emotion to it, you are more likely to be able to manifest that reality.

3) Compare.

The ouch generally comes in here, and it gets really overwhelming. Whether it is just a few things you need to change or a whole heaping lot. It’s important to know. Because this list becomes the blueprint to reach the goal. Find so much love for yourself in these moments. Especially if its a lot. This is not a list of failures. It is just the truth, with no moral attachments. It is hard to rewire our brains at this moment. It really is, and i totally get it. But even if you have to stop every couple of minutes, and do the energy work, say the affirmations – I don’t even care what you do, to change it; but deal with the emotion, and turn it over to the new thought process. Something we are leaving in 2024? Being an asshole to yourself. Cool? Cool.

Something important to understand is that no matter what the goal is, whether it’s business, relationships, body composition, or travel – all of it, starts with you. The thought processes, habits, and energies that you allow. You can’t know what it going to bring in the goal, the dream, the manifestation, without first knowing what you allowing into your energetic field. The list is important.

4. Recap

At this point you not only have your goals, that you can pull from the meditative time. Whatever that life was you just pictured, figure out key points, and get those set in stone. That’s the goal. but you have a list of every single habit you need to start taking on. Every thought process needs to change. And these can be your baby steps.

It really is that simple.